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My Hens Night

2012-01-31T09:45:00.004+11:00

My JiMuis had my Hens Night the week before my wedding. I know, I know. We're supposed to have it the night before the wedding day to signify and celebrate my 'last' night of single hood but it really wouldn't look good for me to drag myself to my special day in drunken stupour eh like what you see in the movies such as The Hangover?

Then again, Mr. C and I have already 'tied the knot' end of 2010 legally speaking. So, technically speaking, we were no longer single but very married. I had people asking me if I was nervous or jittery leading up to the BIG day to which I'll say, "a bit late to be nervous or having cold feet eh? After all, I am married to the man already. No turning back."

Anyhow, the Hen Night was a night well planned by the ever efficient Miss Pretty Soo, known as Empress Soo for the evening. She really put in thought and effort and it was plain for all to see; greeted by the deco of blue, helium balloons, lollies, 'Rules of the night' printed out on blue paper, cupcakes and a tub of punishment in the form of a 'yucky' drink. Liked the games though I did thought we might have gone club hopping since I've never been clubbing in KL. ;p

Anyways, I present to you, my Hens Night... in pictures.

#1 The theme for the night... ROYAL!

#2 So, it had some princessy feel with carriages etc...

#3 Penalty for saying the taboo words of the evening, drink some 'yucky' drink!

#4 To be sporting, I talked and seem to keep fumbling... Hence, forced to sip from the bucket.

#5 Someone had to make a part of Mr. C's erm... organ using plastercine!

#6 Aahhh... what's it with bachelor(ette) games involving the use of condoms??!

#7 Live entertainment that drowned out the sound of our voices rendering it totally impossible to have any conversation!

#8 What's a party without... GROUP PHOTO!!

#9 AND forcing the bride-to-be to dance!

#10 and plying me with alcohol...

#11 Never say "I am not drunk enough to dance" to Miss Pretty Soo.

#12 Complimentary drinks... that smelt and tasted GROSS!

#13 NOT lessbian action btw. Oooh roses for each of us girls ON THE HOUSE!

#14 Apparently I kept doing this the whole night...

The reason I kept doing the above picture was to regain 'clear' vision. After downing a total of six shots of (let's call it) the Yucky drink, the effects only hit me half hour later. I was saying to my childhood friend of 23 years,"hey, how much of this stuff do I drink before I am gone?" to which she said,"oh, you'll only feel the effects probably in half an hour or so...".

Gee. Thanks a lot for the late Heads up! ;p I had my fifth shot with her and the sixth one with Miss Bubbly.

I think about half hour to an hour later, I was still pretty conscious of my surroundings etc. I just couldn't see people clearly as everything seemed a little out of focus. However, if I used my two fingers to pull my eyelids downwards as the above picture, I could actually see people more clearly; people didn't sway and looked blurry.

This is the one and (probably) the only time I'll ever be 'deep in my cups'! So, you lucky six people who were there, it was an honour 'drinking' and being silly with you gals! Unfortunately (for me), I was the only one not sober. Bleh. I guess they already planned this right from the beginning!

To be fair, as I've never been drunk before, I have never known my limits and tolerance. I have drunk a fair bit of alcohol and I do drink a beer or two every so often but never gone all loopy like that night. It definitely was an experience. ;)

LOLs. My two friends that stayed over at my place were pretty amazed at the next day me. I didn't' have ANY headaches, I could remember everything I said the night before clearly and I only had three hours of sleep!

I repeatedly kept saying stuff that night and stuff I said that amused the rest were like "This is the drunkest I've ever been and this will be the only time you'll ever see me drunk!". Apparently drunk people rarely ever admit they're drunk with the exception of me! ;p

Mr. C saw the clip they took of me and laughed exclaiming that I talk a lot even when I am drunk. Funny them for recording the night! I gather my night was more fun than his. Double LOL.

TEN ways to be happy

2012-01-30T11:56:00.000+11:00

I read this on FB the other day and I must say, it is good to be back on FB... and I love reading all these quotes and wise words! Now, time to put them into action!

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1. Accept the things you can't change. If you can and want to change them, do it. This is one tough one for me 'cos I constantly struggle with letting go.

2. Let go of the people who are holding you down. If you considered them, you already know who these people are. Sad isn't it to have to cut one's losses, at times.

3. Blast your favorite upbeat song and sing at the top of your lungs, dancing as you go. Oooh... definitely love doing this one!! In the comfort and privacy of my own home! ;p

4. Go for a run. A nice, long run. Run until you feel good; at the very least, you'll be tired enough that the feelings will seem less major. This one definitely works. We generally feel happier after 'exercising' as happy hormones are released into our system post work out! So, back to running again...

5. Call someone you love, Just hearing their voice can make your day better. More of a texting person than calling although I love talking. Strange isn't it? But God has been bringing friends and family into my life 'cos they seem to be calling me off and on this past week! ;) And yes, after talking to them, my spirits ARE lifted!

6. Smile at a stranger. It will make both of you smile. Haha.. Hope the stranger doesn't think me a strange looney bin for smiling at him/her or coming on to them! Shall endeavour to remember this and do it even when I don't feel like it!

7. Send an anonymous compliment. HOW on earth does on do this?? Ooooh.. got an idea! Post them a card!!

8. Write down everything you don't like about yourself. Rip it up. Burn it. Definitely LOVING this idea and want to do it!! Now, to get busy writing the list... it's going to be a looooong one.

9. Watch your favorite movie. Craps! I don't have a particular favourite one. Do you?! Maybe you can recommend it to me!

10. Realize that you are your own biggest critic. People do not see the faults in yourself that you do. So realize that they are not faults, not imperfections. They make you, you. I definitely am my worst critic as I've said many a times. Now, I know about the above, after all Mr. C is forever trying to convince me that I am fine just the way I am. Question is, how do I embrace it and believe it as so?!

Melbourne Weather and Climate

2012-01-29T22:15:00.005+11:00

I must say, since moving to Melbourne, one thing that stands out is its erratic weather. When describing Melbourne, many would comment on its 'four seasons in one day' climate and it is SO true!

You can wake up to be greeted with sunny skies and warm weather only to get chilly winds that chill your very soul later part in the day. This leaves me to always ask Mr. C to check the weather forecast and my constant dilemma of what to wear out and if I should bring a coat or a jacket!

Right now, end of January, we're experiencing Summer. Early in January when Mr. C and I first arrived back in Melbourne, I was in awe of the cool weather which was at 15-19 Degrees Celcious.

After a few days, it was a tad too cold that we had to go hunting for fan heater 'cos ours, that we bought at a garage sale for AUD3, had broken down. We went to Kmart, Target, Big W, Bunnings and all we could see were fan after fans. The staff said that heaters are generally not sold during Summer and we had to wait till Winter to make a purchase.

Imagine that! Boohoo for us.

However, the weather changed (can't say for the better though since Mr. C and I love the cold more than the heat) and it's been hot the past two weeks! Crickey!

Can't wait for Autumn or Winter to arrive. The season of beautiful jackets and boots! Even now, the maple leaves have turned colour. They're no longer one toned leaves of green. Today, we saw orangery shades mashed with brown!

Simple Melbourne weather information:

(Taken from www.informationcentres.com.au)

1) Melbourne is in the Souther Hemisphere.

2) This means that seasons here are the opposite to those in Europe, North America and some of Asia.

3) Spring and Autumn are typically quite balmy, while Winters are known for being very crisp.

4) The month of June is normally incredibly foggy, which can result in some flights being delayed.

Average temperatures are as follows...

SUMMER: December to February 13-26°C / 55-79°F

AUTUMN: March to May 8-24°C / 46-75°F

WINTER: June to August 7-15°C / 45-59°F

SPRING: September to November 8-22°C / 46-72°F

Nicole Kiss or Dawn Yang?

2012-01-29T03:13:00.008+11:00

This is a super random post.

Just blog hopping at this super crazy hour and came across Nicole's "New Year Eve Look" post. Somehow, her facial features reminded me of somebody else's. Not that I really follow her blog... just every once in awhile. It used to be interesting regarding her travels around the world but off late, it feels like yet another blogger's online diary of ramblings. ;p

(Oooh fans of hers, please, no flaming here. Just stating my opinion and nothing disparaging about her ya.)

Nicole, looking sexy. Lols.

Anyways, back to her looking like someone and it hit me. She looks a little bit like...

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none other than the infamous DAWN YANG!!

Yay or Nay?? Lols. Somehow the eyes seem to be bigger than before, the nose bridge looks slimmer etc.

I think for most who have been following both their blogs through the years will agree they both do look different from years ago. Maybe it's the make up and all. Or they've lost weight. Then again, maybe it's just my poor eyesight! LOL!

Note : if you haven't the faintest idea who one earth are Nicole (Malaysian) or Dawn (Singaporean), Google them, otherwise, click on their links. That's only if you are interested.

Oh well, she still looks pretty ish.

I am sure with all their 'prettiness', comes a hefty price. People are forever talking about all kinds of things about them, not necessarily good. I've heard a thing or two but since I don't know either on a personal level, let's just say, we shouldn't judge a book by its cover and be quick to judge. After all, let the man without sin, cast the first stone.

No one's perfect. They've made their choices in life and maybe, going public for the world to read isn't exactly a smart move but I am sure they bear with the consequences and who knows? They regret the mistakes they make. I am sure you do too. After all, what you sow, you will reap. It's always just a matter of when... a matter of time where it comes back to bite you.

So, cut them some slack. They're humans just like you and me! ;)

2012 Pics #17 She loves us

2012-01-28T15:06:00.001+11:00

Yet another fruits basket from Aunt M! ;)

Questions ALWAYS asked

2012-01-27T11:53:00.003+11:00

With it being Chinese New Year and all, I am sure plenty have been asked 1001 questions that we sometimes wish aunties would know better than to ask! LOL.

Pardon my Malaysian English...

Questions people LOVE to ask in general.

#1 Got boy/girlfriend or not?

#2 How long together?

#3 (If no partner) Why no boy/girlfriend ar???

#4 (If one is in a relationship) When getting married? Better fast fast marry... not young anymore.

#5 What are you doing now? Studying?? Working??!

#6 What are you studying?

#7 (If not studying) Where are you working?

Questions people LOVE to ask BEFORE engagement and the wedding ceremony.

#1 When are you getting married? Better fast fast marry, give your parents grandkids... dragon year good to have babies!!

#2 How is wedding preparations?

Questions people LOVE to ask AFTER the wedding ceremony.

#1 How is married life?

#2 Have you gone for your honeymoon? Where did you go?

#3 When are you having a baby?

Questions I get asked A LOT (besides the above)!!

#1 Do you prefer Australia or Malaysia?

#2 Is it easy to get a job? What do you want to do?

#3 When are you going back to Melbourne?

#4 Why don't you stay for CNY??

#5 When are you coming back to Malaysia?

... and I tell you this, in Asian culture, the questions NEVER stop. It's just how Asians tend to talk in general. Sometimes, they are just plain nosy but most times, it's just a way of 'getting' to know you.

I gather Westernised people will find it alike to an interrogation. Lol. Even the questions bugs me... often enough to be glad that I am here in Australia and the questions are definitely asked less frequently.

2012 Pics #16 Phat Pumpkin

2012-01-27T09:15:00.001+11:00

2012 Pics #15 Constant companion

2012-01-26T23:13:00.001+11:00

Yellow elephant...

2012 Pics #14 Rhubarb

2012-01-25T23:12:00.000+11:00

2012 Pics #13 Walking at Prahran

2012-01-24T23:10:00.000+11:00

2012 Pics #12 SS2 Mall's Full House

2012-01-23T23:06:00.001+11:00

Club Sandwich

2012 Pics #11 Happy CNY!!

2012-01-22T11:51:00.001+11:00

Coles at Stud Park Shopping Centre

This is the closest, so far, I've felt to Chinese New Year here in Melbourne! :'(

2012 Pics #10 You drive me nuts!

2012-01-21T19:50:00.001+11:00

Friday Facebook Failure

2012-01-20T23:03:00.003+11:00

I've been wanting to take a break from Facebook for the longest time ever. In 2011 when many were on hiatus from Facebook as part of their 'fasting' for Lent, I had thoughts of doing the same as well.

But that was it. Just thoughts and NO actions.

Off late, I know I've been FBing even more. Even my sister's intern noticed my increased activity. Perhaps it's a feeble attempt at trying to stay connected with friends back home and those all around the world. Funnily enough, I am doing most of the connecting part and not my friends.

FB does connect one to distant relatives and long lost friends, allowing one the option of blossoming and strengthening relationship. Besides knowing more about my family and friend's life through their updates and news feed, I also gain access to many Wedding related vendors especially photographers and videographers. Their work constantly inspires and amazes me. The creativity behind the photos and videos; the thought and effort put in, sometimes astounds me.

How does one come up with such amazing concepts and arrangements? Where does the idea and inspiration originate from? Which leads to me reflecting back on my very own wedding and what it lacked.

I forgot to give our 'Thank You' speech. My flowers were not as beautiful and as amazing as I expected it to be. Our tea ceremony was somewhat disorganised IMHO. I've mentioned a bit of my post wedding blues that I've yet to blogged about in details.

Crikey! You must be thinking... more whiny posts of what went wrong??! Lols. I'll solve your problem for you, just click the 'X' button at the top right corner and PROBLEM SOLVED! ;p Definitely a worthy post for the future, and perhaps, it'll be beneficial to future brides from repeating my mistakes or oversight. Bleh.

Anyways, back to Facebook. See, I've the attention span of a gnat and my ability to ramble and digress off topic never ceases to amaze me. I think FB surfing does not go well with my emotional wellbeing. Something riggered the emotional dam, it burst and I was overwhelmed leading my decision to go off FB for a week.

I wanted to start on Monday allowing me some time to slowly wean off FB. But I figured if I procrastinate, I might change my mind. So much for my bravado, today, I've clicked 'Facebook' like four times in total. After 5 minutes of quick surfing, I'd quickly close the browser.

Hence, this post and title; my plan to stay off FB for a week FAILED big time!

But I am not giving up. Perhaps, tomorrow, I'll log in two times. Then on Sunday, once. And who knows, from Monday till the following Monday, I'll actually be able to stay off FB!

NOTE: Found it ironic that The Star (a newspaper back in Malaysia) had several articles on Facebook addiction and how some really take the addiction to a whole new level with bosses facing problems when their workers waste time on FB during working hours just the day after I decided to take a break! How uncanny.

Despite that, today wasn't all bad. Mr. C was super sweet and let me sleep in today, absolving me from breakfast making duties. Lol. I tidied the rooms, made the bed for my aunt's impending arrival tomorrow, drove out to the Kmart in Stud Park Shopping Centre for a little walk and to test that my uncle's car was in tip top condition, which it seems to be!

Besides that, I just baked some Sugi aka Semolina cakes earlier in the evening. One for my neighbours, another for my younger uncle whom I'll visit this weekend and the last, for Mr. C and I and anyone else at home. Mr. C lend a hand and really loved using the blender to mix the ingredients, reminding me of myself when I was an eager child watching my mummy when she did her baking.

Guess that's all for tonight... now, for the email updates to our families back home.

Ps: Does it count as FBing if I 'like' links at blogs whereby the posts is connected back to FB and appears on my FB wall when I share the 'liked' article/post??

Thinking Thursday

2012-01-19T13:24:00.004+11:00

Last night, I went to bed with tears sliding off the side of my eyes seeping into the pillow. This morning, to Mr. C's horror, I started tearing at the breakfast table. He asked what the matter was wrong with me. I think it's the pressure of finding a job. Any job. The right job. The job that will pay well and most importantly, I'll enjoy and excel in.

No easy feat, I tell you. Just reading job descriptions put me off job search. Oh well. That's the fun part of being an adult right? RESPONSIBILITIES and what not. I have to think of my future children and also my parents when they get older. It's going to cost a fair bit of money.

If not for money, I wouldn't be going back to work. If I had money, there's so much I want to do with it. Start a home for the elderly and the young... a cafe or an eatery with a stage for live performances; poem reading, monologue, basically for budding artistes to showcase their talent or just a platform to voice their thoughts. The list goes on. I am sure many of you have said dreams and plans to open your own business but currently hampered by the lack of capital.

Reality checks in, and boy does it suck big time!

Anyhow, Sal called and I chatted with Mun2, too. Felt better after. Perhaps, it'll get better from here on. Thanks God. I went to bed in tears and a prayer to God asking Him to help me make sense of sad me and to help me turn a sad day into a good day. And He helped.

Last week, was at EB Games and saw the above and the below. Let's just say, boys will always be boys. Even when they grow facial and body hairs, don on a suit and a tie to work, they'll always be a boy at heart, somehow.

And I think guys got it right somehow. Keep their life simple and they are pretty much easily contented and happy. I think, it's usually the missus that complicates their life. LOLs. Our landlord told Mr. C to make sure that I was okay with the house when we first moved in last year. He said that if I, the lady of the house was happy, then there will be no problem for the man. And it really is true.

Can't wait to go to Knox Shopping Centre later to trade in my Dance Central for The Black Eyed Peas Experience! Hopefully, I can still get it at the cheaper price. Otherwise, I'll have to forgo getting it today. ;(

Note : I think it is awesome how I can transfer songs from my Dance Central to Dance Central 2! And hence, allowing me to trade it in for The Black Eyed Peas Experience!

See, this is why I need to get a job. To be able to enjoy little pleasures in life such as this and my sweeties and chocolates, my sticky date puddings and oooh... accesories, clothes, bags, shoes and presents for people!!!

Poor Mr. C. Every time we go out, I see things I would LOVE to buy for people; friends and family. He'd rather I buy things for myself to make myself happy then always splurging on others especially if others might not always appreciate such gestures.

My sister says I need to love myself but I don't know how to. And to go back to the root of the question,"why don't I love myself?". I am not ugly and I admit, I am not stupid. But neither am I pretty hot nor super smart. Wonder if others go through such battles with self. I guess everyone does but a different kind from mine.

So, 2012... a journey of self discovery. Now, how to go about doing that?

Wake up Wednesday

2012-01-18T16:16:00.004+11:00

This is probably true. Have been reverting back to old ways of going back to bed after Mr. C goes to work. Of course, I go back to sleep with his full approval! LOL. But I tell myself I shouldn't. There is just so much I want to do and when I do get a job, I'll have even lesser times to do those things. Then again, it is kind of redundant when I don't do them now, when I have way more time than I'll ever have.

I really dislike it when I am in this mode. This down mode where anything can just bring you down. And all your weaknesses are just magnified. You think that your abilities and your qualifications don't match. It's like a chef excelling in carpentry but suck at cooking. Having to reassess oneself; the lack of confidence, the forgetfulness, the tough judgment on self.

Mr. C has said before that he has never seen anyone so hard on themselves ever. It is true that your worst enemy is your self; if you tell yourself that you can do anything, chances are, you believe it and do anything. But if you belittle yourself, how can others think the world of you when you think you are nothing?

So, the trick to solving any problems is the first step of accepting. With acceptance, accepting you have so and so problem or you need so and so help, the next step is easier, working the problem out. But if you don't accept or think there is a problem to begin with, then, there's nothing to work out despite the problem existing. Us, humans are very good with self-delusion.

Hence, I really do need to love myself more. Sometimes, I think God gave me Mr. C 'cos he really does love me as I am; the good and the bad. He loves me enough, and at times, enough to make up for the lack of love I have in myself. I claim that he is bias and rarely objective when it comes to me as he always regales others about my 'talents', my beauty and only he knows what else. And maybe I need such belief, such faith that I am that good. That I have something.

It's silly how our minds play tricks on ourself.

I want to scream and enjoy the ride. I want to seize the moment and savour every minute of everyday. I know that moping and stressing out is really pointless. But point aside, I still do. I hate being in this down mode and I try to pull myself out of it; sometimes, I succeed, others times, I don't.

Maybe I shouldn't be saying all this here, online, in cyberspace for the whole wide world to see. Who knows? Maybe my future employer will stumble upon this personal space and judge me unfavourably. But so what? I don't believe in writing an untruth in my resume just so to make myself look good. Heck, I might have something good but I won't think to put it in my resume 'cos I think myself that small most times.

We have so many people 'sprucing' up their resumes just to clinch an interview. Many expound their non-existant strengths and abilities just to try and seal the deal of getting the job. I admire their confidence and ability to bull shit on their feet but if I was an employer and get a staff like that who later on can't walk his talk, I'll be rather upset.

Just because people do it, doesn't mean I should. I gather it's really tough to stand on ones ground and hold on to whatever shred of integrity left. White lies are expected to be told 'cos it's the easier road and hey, everyone's doing it and it hurts nobody.

Like how many people would really tell their friends off when they deserve it? Most of the times, we just sugar coat things not wanting to offend or have a confrontation. But sometimes, some things really do need to be told. Problems and misunderstandings need to be hashed out. Is the friendship so fragile that it cannot withstand a telling off or two?

Then again, maybe it's just me and my issue with friendships. I'll walk a mile for a person but often than naught, most people won't. I am not a perfect person and I am not the world's nicest person. So, don't get me wrong. I just feel that if my friends are really friends, then when I am down, upset and worried, I should be able to go to them. I should be able to just blab how I feel and get affirmation or a telling off for being a whiny baby.

Something or anything... so why can't I? Why do I feel alone? That everyone's off to their own rat race, slaying their own dragons in their own world? Why can't we all slay our dragons together, or have each others backs? To shield one another from danger and the fiery breaths from the dragon?

Such a good reminder to have. I really need to write down this good 'quotes' and stick them where I can see them. If I don't have friends to fall back on and I have abysmal memory, I best do the next best thing and put them where I can see them to jog my memory!

If having PMS moments (before and after Aunt Irma's visit) aren't bad enough, I don't need trips down memory lane especially when it leads back to you. 'Cos it leads no where. You can't have a conversation with someone who doesn't appear to be a willing conversationalist. I can't be trying to read your mind and what's going on when all I get is silence. And the silence gets to me.

I am your friend but I have my down times, my moments. And when I have these moments, I don't need this games you play. Maybe you don't realise the spot you put me in, maybe you feel the same as I do. Whatever it is, I don't like you invading my space especially places where you no longer belong.

Right now, I need a friend and it would be nice to have one that just understands me, that'll surprise a smile out of me or something. But you know what? This is an age long situation that I've yet to discover the answer and why it haunts me.

Perhaps, a lesson to be learnt from the Almighty One?

Just because I smile, it doesn't mean I am ok. Pull of the band aid and you'll see I still have the wounds. If not the wounds, then the scars. Tomorrow, I might be feeling better and less sorry for myself.

But today, today is a different story and perhaps what I really needed was a Wake Up Wednesday.

Hot Monday

2012-01-16T17:03:00.006+11:00

It's a hot day. This morning, the temperature in my living room was 25 degrees Celsius and now, it's gone up to 29. As I sit tinkering away on my laptop on a desk at the corner behind the family TV room, I can feel the heat evading into the family TV room.

Behind the wall where I am facing is the backyard overlooking the lake where else behind the wall on my right is the courtyard. This morning, the sun was shining from opposite me, now, it shines brightly through the sliding door leading into the courtyard on my right.

Finally, summer is here. Of course, it is not as hot as Malaysia but it was cold a few days back. I was whining then but now that it's hot, I hate it. Given a choice of cold over hot, give me cool breeze, strong winds and what not. As.long.as.I.am.not.hot!

The job hunt begins. Urgh! I dreamt of you, yet again. Urgh! Your silence annoys me. Double Urgh! But I'll not let you mean more than you should. Realised I lost one side of my pearl earrings. Expiry date of a voucher I bought slipped my mind to only hit me in the head today that it was due yesterday. BORDERDASH!

That's pretty much it for today. Hence, I'll just put a post of my Saturday in pictures.

#1 Finally paid a visit to Prahran Market along Commercial Road.

#2 Nothing much happening actually...

and it would seem Melbourne's brimming with massage parlours.

Every mall I go to has at least one of them!

Knox, Chadstone and it would seem, even Prahran Market!

#3 Deco or for use? Hmmm.. Has a regio and all... though an expired one at that!

#4 Yea! I look decent here and you can't see the gross blitz on my face!

#5 "All by myself... don't wanna be..." Poor lonesome doggie...

#6 There's just something about pavements

#7 and side roads...

#8 Beautifully tasting Mocha at LA LUCCIOLA

#9 Apple and raspberry crumble AUD10

#10 Nice hang out area Miss Lawyer spotted the last time we were here

#11 Swish and Cocktail (several shops down) HAS the prettiest gowns ever!

#12 The dress looks shapeless and horrendous in real life but I somehow made it look nice here

#13 Lol. For Miss Lawyer's Hens Night.. entertaining or weird?!

The day the blues started

2012-01-15T09:54:00.002+11:00

I was doing perfectly fine since we got back. I cleaned the house, washed our clothes, folded, ironed and put them away. I threw out brochures that were irrelevant and what not. I was alright.

But on Tuesday, as I waited for Sal to come over with her sister, I was on the laptop checking mails and what not. That is when a sudden melancholy washed over me. Strange but I can remember it clearly. That was when I suddenly felt down. One moment before that, all was fine in Estherville. Next moment, my world was pouring cats and dogs with thunders and lightning.

Aaah... such is the mystery of a female psyche. Even I don't understand myself at times! Lol.

So, it was a really good thing that I was out that day. Went swimming with Sal and her siser at a pool in Cheltenham. Cost me AUD5.90 and boy was the bleach stench overwhelming. From the moment the sliding doors at the main entrance greeted us, my nose was assaulted by the smell of chlorine. Lucky Mr. C for not being around as he usually can't stand such smell.

The toilet, changing and shower room was tidy and functional. Pretty impressed. Lol. And for those who are comfortable with their bare skin can go au naturel, if they like. We only swam for about an hour or so, although it felt shorter. Unfortunately for us, there were no good looking blokes nor sexy ladies. ;p I guess this group of people go to the beach to flaunt their abs and sexy bodies.

It was strange swimming 'cos the pool was divided into lanes. The kind you watch on tivo when there's a swimming competition. Each lane is divided in categories such as 'slow lane' , 'medium lane' , 'fast lane' and even 'recreation lane'! Hence, 2-3 people would have to share a lane. How to swim like that la?? Anyhow, we managed.

I don't know about you but when I swim, I ALWAYS work up an appetite. Even if I swim at a leisurely pace. We headed to Tokyo Deli in Elsternwick. Everytime Sal and I hang out, this is the place we go to appease our bellies.

The pork patty don she and her sister had. Her sister LOVED LOVED it! She loved it so much she wanted to take away a few sets much to Sal's amusement and horror. Sal managed to dissuade her though.

Everytime I make an effort to retain the names of food in my memory, I believe that I'll remember it when it comes to sitting down and blogging about the dish. But once again, my memory fails me. Bugger! And people who think Bugger is a swear word needs to get a life. Isn't a bugger someone who likes to bug? ;p

I decided to be 'adventurous' today and try something different form my usual Beef Terriyaki Don that is oh-so-delicious-my-mouth-waters-just-thinking-about-it! BIG mistake and once again, this is WHY I dislike trying new dishes especially when I know what food I like at that eatery.

Digressing... it's like that one time Miss Bubbly and I decided to be bold and brave at Cha Time. She had some Caramel milk tea whilst I gave English Milk Tea a go. Needless to say, BIG MISTAKE! Just stick to Original Pearl Milk tea always!! If I had to change anything, I'd just add additional pudding topping! Dang! Talking about BBT (bubbletea for the ignorant) makes me crave for a cup of it! ;(

Back to my point, the Tonkatsu Don was just average. The fried part was a bit too thick and the rice was dry ish due to the lack of gravy. And I don't like my rice to be dry. Right. I know rice is a non-wet dish but what I am trying to say is that I usually like to have soup or gravy accompany my rice, easier to swallow. Weirdo me. Whatever. That's just me.

Lesson learnt for the next visit. Stick to safe, awesome tasting Beef Terriyaki Don.

AVIV CAKES & BAGELS

We finished our lunch and hurried a few shops down to Aviv Cakes & Bagels gleefully. It was full house that day! Despite that, after several minutes of wait, Sal managed to secure a table for herself, me and her sister!

Sal and her sister shared the above cake and a vanilla slice. I was feeling greedy and perhaps Miss PMS was kicking in, I told Sal that I wanted a Vanilla Slice all to myself for that day. We usually share. So, my wanting a piece all to myself is a one off thing. Then again, it was SO good and yum that I just might have my own slice the next time I head there.

This delectable pastry is really a taste of heaven. Of course not literally but figuratively speaking! The top crust is crisp and yet not soggy soft despite sandwiching custard cream in between. Dusted on top is icing sugar. Somehow, the combination is just perfect!

It looks sinful and super sweet but it isn't actually! Sal isn't one for very sweet food. Even her sister was the same and was quite hesitant to try out the Vanilla Slice. I told her to just give it a go and she won't regret it! True enough, after a bite, she wanted to devour it and definitely preferred it over the strawberry cake in the above picture.

Vanilla slice elsewhere doesn't taste this superb. Trust me. I know. So, if you're ever around Elsternwick, more specifically Glen Huntley Road... check out this shop! ;)

The above pictures is meringue that looks like white poo! Apparently, this is quite popular with the children and makes an appearance around Christmas and New Year season. It doesn't really look appetising to me but I reckon the kids get sugar rush off this since its generally made of sugar and egg white!

After our fiesta about half past three o'clock, we made our way back to Sal's house in Bentleigh. We hung around and chatted for a bit whilst waiting for Mr. C to finished work and join us. Was rather tired out after the hearty meal and decadent dessert and almost nodded off.

Soon enough, Mr. C arrived, hang around for a bit more chatting and then, we left for dinner. Gosh. These people really couldn't decide where and what to eat. We headed to Momoco in Elsterwick only for Jules to mention he didn't fancy Jap food that day. Mr. C and I didn't fancy Chinese since we just got back from Malaysia.

We went to Salute at a RSL eatery but walked out after perusing the pricey menu much to Sal's younger sister's embarrassment. I told her that I guess 'cos we're older, confident and have lesser need for approval, we aren't ashame to walk out of an eatery when the food and pricing just doesn't agree with us. LOL.

Anyhow, we settled for Limors at Caulfield. The place was huge and every table seated with people! We were fortunate to get a seating without prior reservations. Apparently, the food here is really good and hence, my expectations were raised.

We had the something Combo. Told you I am terrible with remembering dishes names. ;( Basically, it's ribs with chicken and lamb on skewers. There was a debate if the lamb was beef. Majority concensus is that it's lamb. Portion was big and enough for five of us.

Besides that, we also had the Chicken Parmigiana. The picture below doesn't do the actual dish justice. In the picture, it looks all messy and a tad gross, right? Well, in reality, portion was huge with two slabs of Chicken Schnitzel nestled under the tomato sauce. Everyone had enough helpings to leave the eatery full and contented. I rather liked the blanched carrots.

It would seem that Mr. C, Sal, her sister and Jules enjoyed the meal and was pretty satisfied. Where else I didn't. Perhaps there was just too much spice and herbs going on for me. I am an ardent Chicken Parmigiana fan so, not liking this was a surprise for me. Not sure if it's a possibility, but maybe, just maybe Miss PMS had something to do with my warp taste buds for the week.

Bill wise, it came to about AUD80 for all five of us and that's pretty ok for such a huge and filling portion. Cocktails were AUD10 for the evening according to the friendly and nice waiter who served us. Then again, he looked more like the owner.

All in all, I think this was the day the blues begin. Darn it. Hope it goes away soon 'cos it hampers productivity and I have a lot to do. ;(

RECIPE : Chocolate Chip Cookies

2012-01-14T23:11:00.005+11:00

Still felt a little blue today. Despite being out in the brrr but sunny day at Prahran with Mr. C, after dinner, I decided to do some baking. After all, am meeting Aunty S tomorrow and it wouldn't be polite to appear empty handed. Mr. C has his own nick name for her but I think he'll have me decapitated if I were to spill the beans here. Cute me or not.

I wanted to make Sugi cake with the recipe mum has passed down to me but if I did that, it'll leave me with only one egg in the fridge! Hence, choco chip it is! Raided my baking cupboard to see if I had the necessary ingredients and I did!

This Cadbury Baking Chips really come in handy! Not only are the chips delicious to eat, as is, there is a recipe at the back with easy-to-follow instructions on how to bake Chocolate Chip Cookies! Yum! I've followed it a couple of times and it really is that easy to follow. The end result does not disappoint either with fatteningly yum cookies which I occasionally dunk in my milk tea!

RECIPE as written at the back:

Makes 30

Preparation Time : 15 minutes

Cooking Time : 15 minutes

Ingredients

- 125g butter, softened

- 1/2 cup brown sugar

- 1/3 cup caster sugar

- 1 egg

- 1 teaspoon of vanilla essence

- 1 and 1/2 cup self raising flour (this is pronounce as 'flower' here in Aussie)

- 3/4 cup Cadbury Milk Chocolate Chips

Method

1) Cream butter and sugars till light and fluffy.

2) Whisk in the vanilla essence and egg.

3) Stir in the sifted flour and then fold through Cadbury Milk Chocolate Chips.

4) Place teaspoonful of mixture on greased baking trays and bake in moderately slow oven 160 degrees Celsius for 10-15 minutes.

5) Cool on a wire rack.

The original cookies

For my first batch, I followed the recipe to the very T. Second batch, I added in some peanut butter on top of the choco chips with the last batch having peanut butter AND Nutella. I know... sinful right?! Just felt like tweaking and trying different ingredients. ;)

When I stirred and fold in the flour, the mixture wasn't in one form. Instead, it looked like bread crumbs! Had me panicky for a moment wondering if that was how it looked the last few times I did it. I know, forgetful aren't I. Anyhow, I managed to mixed them into one lump of mixture and started spooning them onto baking paper.

NOTE : Don't forget to pre-heat the oven for at least 10minutes before putting in the mixtures!

Top one : Choco chips + Peanut Butter + Nutella

Bottom : without the Nutella

End result, loved the original batch with just the choco chips. This time round, the ones with the peanut butter and Nutella was alright but somehow, it felt like too much was going on. Mr. C said he couldn't really taste the Nutella flavour. Although he liked the peanut butter one, he still favoured the original just choco chip cookie. Likewise.

Even the original one looked better and more presentable with the choco chips standing out and proud! Funnily enough, the package said that this recipe makes 30 pieces but I managed to churn out 80 pieces! And mind you, it wasn't baby sized cookies either! Bigger than the Australian 50cents coin and that's not tiny nor small!

If you don't have Cadbury's Baking Chips where you're at, fret not, any ordinary chocolate chips will do just fine.

Just trying out different angles and style to showcase the decadent cookies. Mr. C who was watching soccer on tivo in the family room next door must have heard me munching away 'cos he asked how many pieces I tucked into my flabby tummy. LOLs.

Less than two hours of preparation, baking and cleaning up! If you're more efficient with a bigger oven, you can definitely finish it in one hour. So, what are you waiting for?

Try it out!!

Chocolate chip cookies, at the reach of your finger tips! ;)

Kitchen Creatures at Centrepoint, Bandar Utama

2012-01-14T11:49:00.001+11:00

Today, I'll be out with The Hubs. Visiting Prahran Market to scout for some flowers for Miss Lawyer's wedding. Hope the trip is fruitful! And for that, I've scheduled for this post to entertain you lot whilst I am out. ;) Happy Saturday everyone!

Had my Tuesday date with my sister before leaving Malaysia. She came back early from camp just to spend time with me and we definitely had a good, long sister chat; just the two of us. Our endless conversation and constant chatter can put us in the best friend category though we're not. LOLs. Ok. I am just rambling and hopefully, making some sense.

Cool idea actually.. might try them out in future.

We wanted to have our dinner at Betty's Midwest Kitchen and hence, we hang out at Cha Time, a few shops away for an hour plus. When 6pm arrived, we walked there only to realised that they were closed for renovation! I really think Betty Midwest Kitchen and I are just not meant to be! This ISN'T the first time we both thought of trying out this place only to arrive and find it closed!

Anyhow, change of plans and my sis brought me to Kitchen Creatures at Centrepoint in Bandar Utama. I've been to this place once with The Sues before I left for Brisbane in May 2010. I felt the food was alright but somehow, never made it back there.

I like the prints, layout of their menu. Funky and yet, legible.

Price wise, fairly alright. Ranges from RM10 to low RM20s.

Problem with menus such as this, I get spoilt for choices and if you know me, I don't do well with choices. I rather have limited options and even then, with just Option 1, 2 and 3 can be a real headache at times for me. Then, you'll see me sticking up three fingers and asking Mr. C to choose one and we'll just go ahead with what that finger represents! LOL.

Poring intently over the menu... salivating! ;p

The simple deco...

Lanterns.. aah... the place is brighter than depicted in the picture.
Background was just too bright, hence indoor picture taken is dark!

My RM4 something rootbeer topped with strips of ginger.

Tasted a tad diluted but felt refreshed after a few sips.

I think this is less than RM10 Fried Calamari Rings... oh wait, or was it Onion Rings. Sorry peeps! Forgotten what I ate but whatever it is, this appetiser is delicious and accompanied with the below two sauces ; sweet chilli and tartar sauce.

My sister and I ordered the above Steak and Cheese pizza. I really liked it. It's cheesey and tasty! Despite only a strip of beef on each slice of pizza, it was feeling. I really have nothing to complain about this scrumptious pizza. Probably not for those who dislike and can't withstand too much cheese in their food. And definitely not for those who are lactose intolerant! Poor you!

I think this is called The something Beef Ragyu. It really looked different from the photo in the menu with the actual dish served in some orangey looking sauce as opposed to dark red sauce. It was still nice tasting though nothing much special to shout about. Once again, not for those who can't tolerate too much cheese or cream in their food.

Portion of food wasn't exactly big but yet, we were full at the end of it. Surprise Surprise! So, if you're game for a new place to try out, tired of the KL jam and what not, just head over to Centre Point and try out Kitchen Creatures! It's above Starbucks! ;)

And tell me what you had and think of it after...

Beautiful Wedding Centre Piece

2012-01-13T13:35:00.001+11:00

#1 Polly wants a feather??

As I was researching for ideas for Miss Lawyer's upcoming nuptials, I came across all these ideas from Google Image. Boy, people are creative! Makes me wished I was a bit more hardworking and inspired for my own instead of lamenting about my woes. Oh well, what's over, is over.

The best thing to do is to learn from the past, look and move forward and always make the best of ones situation! Easier said then done but doable, nevertheless!

#2 Candles and petals

I really am more enthusiastic about other people's wedding. More so than my own! Wonder why...

We definitely can't do some of these for Chinese Banquets 'cos the dish is always served right smacked in the middle where else Western weddings, everyone gets their appetisers, main course and desert on individual plates leaving the middle of the table bare.

Hence, all this wondrous centre (is it centre or center? Blogger keeps auto correcting me!!) pieces!

#3 Singapore Orchids seem to be a popular choice

#4 Love the striking colour and simple arrangement

#5 Yet another simple but classy piece

#6 Like the concept but find it a bit too simple somehow

#7 Ahha! Something different, that's for sure!

#8 Ahhhh.. colours, a little bit of this and that

#9 I love the flower deco with a touch of lemon at the bottom

#10 Love the artsy cutesy feel incorporating table numbers with flowers

#11 This is just beautiful!!

#12 Nature friendly theme

#13 Lols... asparagus!! Interesting!

#14 Aaaah... definitely love this style.. can incorporate this for future parties!

#15 Must be for book lovers!

#16 Woodsy outdoor style

Looking at all this makes me want to go out and buy flowers and put them around the house!! Mr. C says that I'll have to clear up all the flowers once they've wilted and reached the end of their role of beautifying the house. Apparently, he had to cleaned them up the last two times I went back to Malaysia before him! In my defense, they were alive and pretty when I left. It would have been heartless to throw them in the bin when their time was not due...

#17 I love this purple look... can never go wrong.

#18 Flowers in bottles anyone?

#19 Candles in fish bowl!

#20 More flowers.. le sigh

So, if you are planning to get married in 2012 or even in 2013 or 2014, start your planning now!

I know you may think and feel it's too soon! Trust me, it never is. Start scouting for ideas, for what you may like in dresses, flowers, decorations and what not. Some brides already know what they like and want. Some, might like anything as long as their day looks pretty and they look and feel pretty, too.

And for the second group of brides, this is the headache especially when you're spoilt for choices or you have a tight budget to adhere to.

So, START planning TODAY! ;) Bear in mind, the early bird ALWAYS catches the worm.

My blues are back

2012-01-12T16:06:00.005+11:00

If you're the kind of person who can't stand to hear people whine and complain and be down... don't bother reading this post at all... 'cos it is going to be one of those kind of post.

Barely a week back in Melbourne and I am already feeling the blues. :(

Yesterday, Mr. C was really sweet. Bestest hubby ever! Truly number 1!

He bought for me chips and ice-cream in a bid to shoo my blues away. He said to keep the chips for today as comfort food whilst he is at work and wouldn't be able to comfort me if I was down.

I don't know if I am down due to that awesome time of the month where Aunt Irma comes to visit. Or could it be because reality bites; Time to get back into the rat race. Or could it be the anxiety over the Wedding pictures that we're due to receive either end of the month or in February. Or the fact that I feel we didn't take enough pictures with our friends and family and with each other!! Or that we don't have any beautiful wedding photos of just the two of us to put above our bed!!

Or perhaps the fact that I have to be Miss Lawyer's bridesmaid and I am not familiar with Western Wedding and what it entails and to read up on! Hens night to plan?? The need to learn how to self tan to even out the tan lines I got from my honeymoon in Phuket! Shoes that match the dress needs to be found soon!! And now, dancing? Oh no!! Besides, I don't look pretty in the bridesmaids dress!

WAAAIIIILSSsss!!!

It could be one or all the above!! And I have no idea why but I feel super worried that my wedding pictures just won't turn out nice. I am not saying about the photographers skill but more so my face problem and how I freeze and feel awkward whenever I know a lense is pointed my way!! I know, why fret over something that's not a certainty just yet. It's like my worries are going on overdrive.

And now, Miss Cutesie says my resume that I sent to her for review is too honest! What does that even mean?! LOL. Her pointers are pretty good but I feel blue and reluctant to do anything about it. Hence, this post. No worries, I'll push myself to do it in a bit!

Gotta do what one has to despite my feelings, emotional ones especially!

And seeing the below BEAUTIFUL photos of brides and couples doesn't help with my already blue mood. Think I might have to take some time off Facebook. ;(

Brides that just look beautiful!! with their beautiful bouquet...

Photos that captures the love...

The style, creativity and beauty!!

No stunning photos of us like the above ones

No classy photos of us that ooze with class and elegance ;(

No pretty wedding photos like this of us...

I don't think Mr. C and I have any super happy and candid looking photos like this!! Double ;(

No happy, glamourous family photos of us.. and in BLUE!!

My favourite colour, too!!

How not to be ;'(

2012 Pics #8 A blue me

2012-01-11T16:20:00.001+11:00

Funny Mr. C

2012-01-09T11:19:00.001+11:00

As I was clearing through my old notebook and sorting out the notes written inside to decide which important points to transfer over to the new, 2012 notebook, I came across the below note and realised that I've yet to blog it!

Saturday 19 March 2011 4.59pm

Incident #1

As I bopped to Michael Buble's "Haven't met you yet", Mr. C said,"Michael Bubbles". I don't know how to put it into words but just the way he said it, brought a smile to my face. Perhaps, it's his corniness. LOL.

Incident #2

Me : I haven't seen any fat or chubby chicks in Melbourne...

Mr. C : Got.

Me : You're referring to me right?!!

Mr. C : haha...

Me : o_O"

Thursday 24th March 2011

Incident #3

As Mr. C slide both his hands down my cheeks, he exclaimed, "wahhh... so smooth. Help me!! I can't get a grip!". To which I haven't the faintest to faint or laugh at his corniness.

Romantic Internet Memes wedding proposal goes viral: Nuffnang founder proposes to gf

2012-01-08T09:19:00.001+11:00

Check out this great MSN video - Internet Memes wedding proposal goes viral: Nuffnang founder proposes to gf

Picture taken from FourFeetNine.com

Click the above link if you haven't seen how Timothy Tiah , Nuffnang founder proposes to his long term girlfriend, Audrey Ooi otherwise known by her moniker, FourFeetNine. He definitely raised the bar for all boyfriends intending to propose.

Apparently, according to news, even Kathy Perry asked Russell Brand 'why he no do such proposal' for her.

They're both cute in their own ways. I don't mean Kathy and Russell. I was referring to Timothy and Audry. If you have been following their blogs, you'd know that he was previously known as Wombat, now, Fatty. She used to be called Princess but now, Shorty.

I love reading their blogs as they share bits and pieces of their personal life regarding work, friends and each other and it is the way they narrate their stories and infuse their own style of writing.

From past posts, it is plain for all and sundry to take note that Timothy has a romantic tendency right from the very beginning. He is the kind of guy who takes notice what his girl likes and would love and he just makes the effort. Anything else from that, I really don't know much about him to say anything further. She, on the other hand defines the word cute. Her blog is cute, she tells her stories in a cute manner and she looks cute! LOL.

I wish them all the best in wedding planning and based on their blogs, it is safe to say that their wedding is definitely going to be the works; it'll be different, grand and beautiful!

And may the rest of their lives and journey together be as different, grand and beautiful! ;)

Wedding centre piece ideas

2012-01-07T23:32:00.001+11:00

Woke up early this morning and headed to Lilydale with the hubs to where we bought our car to send it for it's 6th month servicing. Needless to say, we woke up late and had to grab our breakfast at a nearby Maccas (the informal version for McDonalds) after dropping the car off.

It felt like the short walking journey from the Toyota shop till Maccas was MORE than the stated 100 metres. Oh well. Anything for Maccas!! Somehow, one is never too old for Maccas and I can imagine myself sitting in Maccas when I am old, frail and wrinkly with my double cheeseburger, fries and coke! Hopefully, I won't be leaking smelly gases then nor give off old people smell. ;p

The table next to ours were of four ladies having their pancakes; one mother and her three daughters. Mr. C was taken with the youngest. When she 'talks', she makes gibberish sound cute. Every so often when she goes off in her baby voice, he will look up at me with his "let's-have-babies" eyes, only to receive my mental smack of "get-back-down-to-planet-earth-they're-cute-but-with-that-comes-other-responsibilities" wake up call.

After our breakkie (Aussie slang for breakfast), Mr. C read his poker magazine to past the time whilst I browse through this Melbourne booklet I got off from the airport in preparation for my friends and families' visit! Leafing through the pages just got me excited about their impending visit and the places I want to bring them and explore together with.

About after an hour, we made our slow walk back to Toyota. I just love Aussie's clear blue skies. It never ceases to take my breathe away and I can just stand still and capture pictures after pictures with my Sammie 2 and my mental camera, storing it away for future browsing and appreciation.

Small jars at AUD1.80

We then headed to Knox Shopping Centre. I wanted to have a look at all budget shops that sold stuff at cheap prices to get some ideas on how or what to make guest table's centre pieces for Miss Lawyer's wedding. And the thing with budget shops over here is that the things sold are funky and functional at an affordable prices!

As my friend's theme is lavender and peach, I was searching for anything useable adhering to the theme. I was also scouting for any stuff that can be used for her hens party though I am not sure just yet if I'll be the one in charge of orchestrating fun activities for her final night of single hood.

More tea lights and jars...

Really like this small coloured fish bowl

Jars can be filled up with flowers and/or water with tea lights afloat!

Bird cages come at an affordable price too!

Next up was hunting for flowers. Reminder, I definitely have to make a trip to Prahran Market next week to scout for flowers, what is offered and at what prices. Apparently, flowers are sold cheaper 4-5pm on Saturdays but that isn't helpful for me as Miss Lawyer's wedding starts at 5pm on a Saturday! Will have to discuss more with Miss Planner (a highschool mate who has agreed to be Miss Lawyer's wedding coordinator) and what her ideas may be.

Flowers from carnations to roses all can be used for her Lavender and Peach theme... Loving the lilac hues and soft peach colour. It boils down to what we have in mind. Flowers in vases? Small ones? Big ones? With flowers? How about leaves? Are we scattering petals on the tables? Putting a few candles in glasses around the table centre? Ooooh... decisions decisions decisions!

Roses will always be my #1 favourite!

Seeing all these gorgeous flowers calling out to me makes me squash real hard the inner shopoholic in me! Squash my desire to buy a bunch and bring home to start experimenting. Dang the lack of finances of not working!

If you fancy a white, vintage looking bird cage, voila!

Ooooh... this would look lovely at the arch by the garden gate where Miss Lawyer will be standing. Best part, it looks classy, according to her theme and is durable what with it being fake flowers! As much as I love flowers, I honestly can't bear when they reach the end and start dropping and wilting. A little part of me somehow, dies.

We could either stick to lavender only or include peach flower balls too!!

Interesting jar ; flowers at the bottom part filled with water and floating tea candles at the top!

Oooh, bubbles for wedding is so cutesy!

Finally, we made it home. I tidied up the house a little bit; threw clothes into the washing machine, soaked my Phuket bought scarf, hand washed my hen party dress (hope it turns out ok), wiped dusts off any surfaces such as tables in the family TV room, bedroom etc. laptop and so on. Besides that, threw out anything that has reached past its expiration date from the fridge, threw all redundant and outdated brochures and envelopes.

Wow... does sound a lot after listing them out. Have yet to iron the pile of Mr. C's working clothes and fold the two mountainous pile of clothes sitting in the washing machine room. Oh well, those can wait for tomorrow.

Tonight, Mr. C cooked. Yum pasta with salad. He dubs it 'Mr. C Tortellini'. LOLs. And he made me a glass of milk with Milo after that.

Now, isn't that an awesome hubby?! ;p

2012 Pics #7 Summer flowers

2012-01-07T22:46:00.002+11:00

I seem to see this flower blooming everywhere since reaching back to Melbourne.

I saw it at Arlington's Wattle Park surroundings, the houses near mine and even in Lilydale this morning!

2012 Pics #6 We looked like doofus...

2012-01-06T17:43:00.002+11:00

... trying to figure out what this is.

Pouring bits of it into our palms and subsequently throwing into our mouths to let it decipher.

Final Verdict : Palm Sugar... lol

Adieu 2011 and Hello 2012

2012-01-06T03:19:00.004+11:00

Just love the view from up above

And I am once again back in Melbourne after a loooong trip to Malaysia. I thought with my hiatus, there would be less, if not, no readers at all. Strangely, according to Nuffnang's tracking, it shows that visitors to my blog have doubled. Of course this makes me a happy camper. Happy that there are people who think my blog is worth reading, worth coming back again and for that, thank you! ;)

December has been a busy month. Mr. C (more of me since that dude of mine barely lift his finger to help) and I can breathe easily. What with our wedding reception finally over. We had tea ceremony, wedding ceremony, wedding luncheon and headed off for our honeymoon the very next day. Came back and spent most of our times between his and my family throughout Christmas and the New Year celebrations! Will definitely blog more about this later on.

There is so much to say about the wedding; the before and after. The honeymoon; before and also the after. Family and friends... somehow, I seem to have lots of stories to tell them and of them. Lol. It's just a matter of deciding what is appropriate to say and what is best left, unsaid.

Sheep wool looking clouds...

Before Mr. C and I left Malaysia, we managed to meet up with a couple of friends and spent many hours having brain stimulating and interesting conversations with my sister! Talking about the past and moving forward, what our plans are and what we hope to achieve for 2012.

Coming back here, to a brand new year. I won't be sitting on my laurels. It's time to join back the work force. I have my concerns but I am learning to put my trust in God that all will be well in His time and at His will. I might get a job that I'll love, that will give meaning but might not pay well. Then again, I might get a job that will pay well but I might have a tough time dealing with the boss or my colleagues or what not.

Always in awe of the clear blue skies we have here.

All I am saying is, whatever it is, I want to commit it to God and trust that He'll be able to give me a job that hopefully pays well and that gives me a sense of purpose and fulfillment to wake up every day, to look forward to and to also be able to be a blessing to others as how I feel blessed this past 2011 despite the many potholes I've had to stumble through.

Besides job hunting, I'll also be busy assisting a friend in her wedding (yea! My first Western wedding), perhaps planning the bridal shower / hen party. Few weeks after that, my friends will be visiting from Malaysia and then comes the family! Before I know it, it'll be time to head back to Malaysia for another friend's wedding!

Pretty bright evening at 8.30pm Melbourne time with 18 degrees Summer!! <3 it!!

First half of 2012 is already filled with plans. Hopefully, I won't lose sight of what's important - my journey of self discovery; who I really am, amongst other matters.

So, HAPPY NEW YEAR everyone and may you have an even better year than 2011 was for you!

Here's to a brand new year, new beginnings, resolutions to fulfill (if you still do them... and if you don't, don't give up on self, just make one or two and strive to achieve those two), decisions to make, things to let go and move one and moments to cherish and to create new ones!

Cheers!!

Wedding at Arlington's Wattle Park Chalet

2012-01-05T23:20:00.001+11:00

Today, I dedicated it for my friend, let's call her Miss Lawyer, who is getting married in mid February. She definitely had her day all packed up to the brim; flying in from the Gold Coast, headed hurriedly to her hotel and then, the wedding venue to meet up the venue's liaison officer (that's what I call her), celebrant, florist and me!!

Mr. C was on his best behaviour today, I must say.

He was there the whole time, attentive and ever patient. Not many men will accompany majority of the whole day by his wife's side listening to her friend pore through and mash out wedding details, especially a wedding that is not his! Then again, he didn't really lift much of his finger to assist in his very own. LOL.

See. The fact that he didn't whine, throw a tantrum or show a sour or moody face (at all, not even once) means he definitely deserves a reward, right?! No worries, he will be duly rewarded. Just have to come up with what to reward him with.

Anyways, the venue hall isn't very huge. It'll fit comfortably about 11 or less tables. And it's enough as it's not like Chinese Banquets where we have 400 to 1000 of guests. Western weddings keep it small, simple and intimate. Even a 100 guests is considered a BIG wedding. They probably think we, Asians are nuts with our big celebrations.

The rustic feel, high ceiling with wooden beams gives a nice ambiance. Brought Bankers Club in Malaysia to mind, another favourite and sought after wedding venue. First impression, the whole place looks small. But once I reminded myself of the number of guests, it's not too bad actually.

This is how the hall will roughly look for Miss Lawyer's wedding. Today, some florists came in to decorate for a wedding to be held tomorrow. The flowers look alright and all but I reckon we can do better. Time to start research!!

I actually like the pebbles at the bottom of the fish bowl. This is the centerpiece for the bridal table but I felt that it was a tad too simple. After all, it is supposed to be the main attraction! So, we definitely have to do better!

The centerpiece for guests table. Didn't really fancy the end results of the leaf. Looked like claws or some scrawny green fingers! The lily afloat the water lend a peaceful feel though to the whole look.

The arch where the Celebrant (a person who officiates a civil ceremony) recommends Miss Lawyer to stand for her ceremony. Am thinking how to 'dress up' this area... hanging lanterns? drapes? flower balls? Hmmm...

I don't fancy the glass piece much but like the twirly look of the leaf. Definitely something to keep in mind. I reckon removing the glass piece and scattering petals with/or feathers would be a nicer touch.

The view from inside the hall where the 3 course meal will be served towards the garden area where the wedding ceremony will take place before hand. It looks rather plain right now but am hoping for beautiful weather and decorations to liven up and add the wedding aura to the venue.

Flowers brought in for tomorrow's wedding to decorate the two empty topped pillars as seen in the above picture.

Am pretty excited actually. After all, this will be my first attendance at a Western wedding. Secondly, I am to be one of her bridesmaids. So, it'll be an experience! Preferably, a good one! And lastly, it isn't my wedding! LOL.

Then again, I'll be escorting Miss Lawyer (hopefully, not Miss Bridezilla) throughout the evening and also slapping her out of any last minute wedding jitters. So, yikes!

Am pretty psyched thinking ideas for her hens party and what not. I seem to be more excited over her wedding than my own. The fact that I am blogging about today instead of my day is a testament to that fact. LOL again.

Tell you more about the wedding after the event in mid February! Stay tuned... ;p

2012 Pics #5 Up in the air

2012-01-05T06:16:00.001+11:00

I can't wait to sit in a hot air balloon!

2012 Pics #4 God, I marvel

2012-01-04T15:49:00.003+11:00

at Your creation...

2012 Pics #3 My first CNY

2012-01-03T23:06:00.004+11:00

... away from home.

2012 Pics #2 My addiction

2012-01-02T17:04:00.002+11:00

Apparently, I am not alone.

2012 Pics #1 Who's car did he get into?

2012-01-01T19:03:00.002+11:00

LOL

I love yoo! at Mid Valley

2011-12-06T12:48:00.001+11:00

Last week, my tummy was grumbling of hunger as I walked past I Love Yoo! in Mid Valley with my mother. I remembered this place was first introduced by MelC, an ex-colleague years ago.

I'd always thought that people had Yao Char Kuai (the fried dough like food in the above picture) when they have Bak Kut Teh (Herbal Spice Soup with pork) or with Kopi O just like how my mother have hers.

So, imagine to my surprise when this was served WITH Soya Bean! I did love it and have gone back a couple of times. It can be pretty filling despite the small serving. However, I find the pricing a bit hefty for such simple indulgence.

Much to my mother's skepticism, the Kopi O turned out well and according to her high standards. Basically, Kopi O is just black coffee without milk.

Cinta Ria at Damansara Jaya

2011-12-05T14:29:00.002+11:00

During the first week I reached back Malaysia, Daddy O brought my mother and I to this shop in Damansara Jaya. It is next to the famous Claypot Chicken Rice shop (if I am not mistaken) and few shops away from Dominoes!

My dad really liked the Fish Fillet meal and this is high praise indeed as he has been really particular and fussy about his food in the past year due to his health. Yeah... he shouldn't really be eating fried food but oh well, a man has got to eat what he wants to eat and there's no stopping a man and his stomach, especially Daddy O.

I had the Roast Chicken meal which my dad stole a few mouthfuls. He liked the gravy and cited that it's just right and not too salty! For once, I like the coleslaw. These days, you get all sorts of funky tasting coleslaws that are served warm. YUCK! I like my coleslaw cold thankyouverymuch! The mash potato was simple but tasty and it goes well with the gravy.

The Mothership had the Grilled Chicken meal. The sauce was pretty much the same as the Roast Chicken's but somehow, I liked my mother's one better. The plate included salad and mashed potatoes like mine. Pasta was a nice addition!

See how happy The Mothership looks! LOLs.

If you're ever in the vicinity, give Cinta Ria a go. The food is reasonably priced. It is not the best Western food I have had but I was pretty happy with my meal that I am willing to go back again to try a different meal. Main meals cost between RM10 -RM20 and if you pop by during tea time, tea and coffee is only 99cents!

Ambiance wise, it was cooling and well ventilated. We were there for dinner about 7pm and the place was almost full house! And nope, I am not paid to write this review. It is just my honest feedback just like all other posts unless otherwise stated. :)

It has also been reviewed by The Ruthless Eater and the Malaysia Most Wanted Food site.

Cinta Ria

78, Jalan SS22/25, Damansara Jaya

03 - 7726 8981

Mean Daddy O

2011-12-04T20:58:00.000+11:00

Hello.

I hear someone knocking outside my door. I know who it is but I refuse to open the door. Five minutes later, I hear someone pounding on the door again. I know it's not my mother or sister. They don't knock this way.

*beep beep*

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8.38pm, 4Dec

Open the door.

8.38pm, 4Dec

Don't want. Later you beat me and kick me.

8.39pm, 4Dec

Don't tell lie.

8.41pm, 4Dec

You promise not to beat and kick me... I'll open the door for you.

8.43pm, 4Dec

10pm, Now good korean show.

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Disclaimer : I wasn't beaten up especially not in any abusive manner, in case you were already on speed dial to the police. It's just his way of playing. He thinks it's funny and amusing. We don't.

But his last text was.

Unfaithful me

2011-12-04T16:20:00.001+11:00

I am so sorry.

So very sorry for my faithlessness, my infidelities.

Instead of being faithful to You and staying true,

I have wandered of the path of righteousness, once again.

It is so much more easier to read a novel for 3 hours,

Watch series upon series like an addiction.

Spend hours to days to weeks surfing the net,

and yet not make any time for You.

You, who have blessed me so much.

You, who have given me abundantly.

You, who held my hand all those times.

Carrying me when I was weak,

when I was down

but just never knew then.

Today at church,

just worshiping you and singing words of praise,

tears flow down my cheeks

as I am filled with a sense of gratitude

and I feel blessed once again.

That despite our ups and many downs,

You've blessed me with Mr. C,

amongst other things.

Forgive my roaming heart,

my lack of discipline,

for not reading your word

for not talking with you often

and for not being diligent in my walk with you.

As we approach the end of a good year,

and as we usher in a new and (hopefully) better year,

I pray that I will be more faithful,

more diligent, more trusting,

of You and Your word.

So, that I can walk my talk

and be a living, breathing testimony

for you.

That people will see You

Your works, Your miracles, Your truth,

as I live my life.

Not by my words alone,

but through my thoughts and actions.

Food, glorious food!

2011-12-03T23:25:00.002+11:00

Char Koay Teow
At SS2's Wah Sek Kai that is pretty much well known for their stalls of delicious food.
We went to the side nearer to McDonald. YUM!

Mee Jawa

Also at SS2's Wah Sek Kai.

Pretty delicious and I don't usually fancy starchy, sweet like gravy.

I liked the prawn crackers that were tasty and still slightly crisp despite sitting in the pool of gravy.

My first time at Tony Roma's in Mid Valley.
Their famous beef burger. Portion is HUGE!!
Chips were tasty and filling. Burger patty was just oozing with juice and bursts of flavours.
The sauce was just an added bonus.

Koay Teow Tong
At a corner shop in Sea Park behind the Guardian row of shops.
Just average and nothing much to shout about.

Wan Tan Mee

My regular favourite at Restoran Gembira in Taman Megah.

I definitely feel more happy after my fix!! ;p

Daddy O amusement

2011-12-02T19:02:00.006+11:00

Sometimes the things my mum and dad say can be pretty funny and humourous but somehow, when I put it into words, the humour seems to fall flat. Oh well, but I gather it's better to write them out than not at all.

So, when they drive me crazy with their eccentricities and antics, I'll remind myself about their funny side.

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Just received a call from a Head Hunter asking my interest in a regional Internal Audit position and told my dad about it.

Daddy O : See, get a job here. You don't have to look for a job, it comes looking for you.

Me : Er... Perhaps the fact that I have a husband based in Melbourne?! Doubt he'll want to be parted with his wife.

Daddy O : But you'll be closer to daddy here.

Me : LOL and Awww....

- UPDATE -

I sense my dad looking at me as I go about my own things on the laptop in the family TV room.

Daddy O : I shouldn't have let you go in the first place.

Me : o_O" A bit late la, dad.

Daddy O in Malaysian English

2011-12-01T20:20:00.003+11:00

Scene 1a

Out in Taman Megah after Bak Kut Teh (not my cup of tea) dinner in Taman Mayang.

As we drove past the fruit seller near Fatty Crab.

Daddy O : OI!!!!

Scene 1b

As we walked back to the car after buying his wholemeal bread from Cake Sense, dad bumped into his friend and was chatting away cheerily.

Us in the car.

Me : Wah... talk to your friend, so friendly and happy with a smile on your face. But when I talk to you, you give me your fierce, sour face. So double standard.

Daddy O : Of course lah... Haven't seen a friend for so long and when bumped into him, definitely have to put on a smile even though I am in pain (my dad's been having frozen shoulder for several months now and the pain can be rather unbearable most times rendering him surly but even then... ).

Scene 1c

Us in the car passing by Fatty Crab and the fruit seller, headed home.

Daddy O : OI!! HUJAN!! BALIK OHHH....

Me : OMG.

Scene 2

Dad is sitting in the lounge room upstairs reading news on the net.

As I turned on the hairdryer in the bathroom (next to the lounge room) to dry my hair.

Daddy O : AIYAH!! The noise. You ar, give me headache only...

Me : I need to dry my hair. You shouldn't let the smallest things annoy you lah, dad.

And I closed the bathroom door to muffle the sound. LOL.

Scene 3

In my brother's room where I currently reside.

Daddy O : Don't go out. It's raining heavily. What are you doing? Always going out when I am home.

Me : Cannot lar... Already cancelled on my friend yesterday. Plus, you didn't say that you'll be around. If I had known earlier, I wouldn't have make plans ma...

Scene 3a

As I pull off the pore pack stuck on my forehead, nose and chin.

Daddy O : Yer... see how dirty... all the dirt.

Me : At least, I am pulling the dirt out unlike yours still stuck in your face. ;p

Daddy O : Give me one mask. I also want to put on my face.

Me : o_O"

Define early

2011-11-30T18:54:00.000+11:00

Me : Mummy, what time did u sleep last nite?

The Mothership : Early.

Me : What time is early?

The Mothership : 2am

Me : o_O'

Happy 1st year Anniversary!!

2011-11-29T08:44:00.002+11:00

Dear Mr. C,

Happy 1st year Anniversary!!

1 year married,

11th year together.

11 years through ups and downs,

We've been to hell and back.

Many a times have we fought and frown,

But seriously, what the heck!

1 year since the signing of our forevers

to each other.

It's been a really good year.

Yet another year of us, together.

As December comes,

and we pledge our love anew.

In front of friends and family,

I just want to say, 'I DO'.

Oh my blues!

2011-11-23T22:37:00.001+11:00

On my first week back, I visited the florist to discuss the flower arrangements for my wedding. Lily from My Bridal Florist and I, with my mother had a delightful chat. She had some good suggestions and seeing how my mum was rather against my dark blue choice for the wedding, I opted for tiffany blue aka turquoise as per Lily, the florist's suggestion.

Although the colour has been changed to turquoise blue, my bridesmaids will still wear cobalt blue. It wouldn't be fair to ask those who have bought their dresses to go looking for new ones.

My bridal bouquet will be white roses with peonies and baby pink eustomas wrapped in turquoise ribbons. My bridesmaids will have turquoise themed corsages (which is still matching with cobalt blue) and so will the groomsmen's boutonnières. The bridal car which is my mum's grey ish blue Alza (for practicality and cost saving reasons) will also be decorated in said blue.

Am really interested to see the outcome of our discussion. Hope all will be as pretty as I picture it in my head.

And because of that, I had to go to the tailor and change the cobalt, royal blue sash to a turquoise one. It does look rather fetching. However, I reckon all colours match white easily.

Regarding my wedding dress, my mum and I decided to do away with the two white flowers on the sash and also the bow at the back. It is always the smallest details that makes a difference. Sometimes, the difference can be so subtle but you somehow notice it.

The two white flowers do look alright in pictures but in real life, if you look closely, you can see the edges fraying. Besides, it does look classier without. As for the bow, if I wore my veil, it would cover the bow, hence, pointless to have it there and have too many things going on at the back.

Next up was hunting for the ties to be worn by the Heng Dais (brothers) aka groomsmen. It is no easy feat finding ties in turquoise blue. Thank God I didn't have to find them in the initial cobalt blue. That is an even more impossible mission. LOL. Unless I scour every mall and every single shop that sells ties. Then again, the budget might be a problem.

I really like the ties in the above two pictures. Taken at Renoma section in 1utama's Jusco. They've revamped the place and I couldn't find the area that used to have racks of ties that cost less than RM20! Perhaps they're trying to 'up' the departmental store's image and pricing.

Miss Bubbly informed me of the Jusco Member sale the next day and I proceeded back to Jusco with her Jusco card on the second day of sale. Saw the above cutesie grey tie with baby blue polka dot selling for RM19.90. Material felt good and thick as opposed to the one below.

The navy blue tie was the reason I went to Jusco to have a look. It was priced at RM9.90. It would have been alright if the blue was lighter or brighter. I didn't think it will look good on the groomsmen if they wore white shirts. It would have looked just too plain.

So back to square one. Still have yet to find any ties for the groomsmen. Miss Bubbly mentioned that she saw the above and below two ties at Metrojaya in the Curve. Shall have a look tomorrow when I am in that area. The higher priced tie was at RM25.90. Should be pretty agreeable with the lads. After all, the ladies are buying their own dresses and not a single one complained at all!

I wished I had the dough to buy my bridesmaids beautiful gowns to adorn for my day and nice suits for the groomsmen. Oh well, so much for fanciful notions. It's back to mother earth.

Besides tie hunting, I've been utilising many a brain cells in regards to the wedding favours. My wedding venue does provide wedding gifts but it is a cheapskate version of Ferraro Rochere in Kopiko like wrapping! Someone commented that people don't really remember door gifts or wedding favours and it shouldn't really matter.

Well, it does matter to me. Of course, I wouldn't want to spend on candles or scented flowers or chopsticks or beautiful coasters as people won't appreciate nor use them. And neither do I want to spend time and effort making something people are just going to throw away after the wedding.

So, I've decided to make either Sugi cake or Chocolate Chip Cookies. The thing is, I need to decide which one to make. My sister said if I were to make cookies, I'd have to wrap them the night before the wedding to ensure it stays crisp. Despite knowing that I will have friends to help with the wrapping, I don't really want to be stressing out about it the night before the wedding when I am sure there will be other last minute details to look into.

Brain is still thinking... Cake vs Cookies. Cake vs Cookies. Cake vs Cookies.

And whilst battling in the mind over which to make, I went to Sea Park to source for the wrapping materials. The glossy paper and ribbons. Came upon turquoise blue wire and am thinking it'll be easier to tie up the wrapping paper. However, I think ribbons will look so much more better.

So, now, it's Cake vs Cookies... Ribbons or Wire. OhMyGosh!! How does brides-to-be do this??! It's just insane. LOL.

For the second week of my being back, I've actually been rather slack and taking it easy. Three more weeks and time to buck up and getting things sorted out and finalised. Photobook to settle, unity candle to get, cake/cookie ingredients plus wrapping materials to purchase, songs to choose, reception table spread and decorations to source for and the guest list plus table arrangements.

Time to tick off some of these matters. Or even just one of them!

Mothership and a sweet blind bat

2011-11-22T20:41:00.001+11:00

Went to the hairstylist with my mother and sister yesterday. LOL. Everyone's hair seriously needed some perk-me-up! After conversion to AUD, the pricing seemed alright. But in RM, it burnt quite a big hole in my pocket!

Mummy had her hair permed whilst I had my whole head redyed with treatment done. My sister, on the other hand had a trim and treatment carried out on her scalp as she tends to have pretty oily hair due to her scalp condition.

I wouldn't have bothered dying my hair if not for the upcoming special day. My streaks were fading and the regrowth was showing. The colour recommended turned out pretty nicely much to my delight!

As for mummy, she had quite a fair bit of white hair showing at the top of her head. I later on dyed her hair with a DIY box but now, her hair closest to the roots are rather purpley copper due to the dye colour showing more on her then, white hair.

It was our first girly time out together doing something feminine. LOL. We're not much of those gushy giggly girly girls. Sometimes, I wished they were a little bit more.

A bubble tea addict

2011-11-19T09:39:00.001+11:00

Since coming home, it is safe to say that I had at least 5 cups of bubble tea! And I am supposed to be losing weight for the wedding! LOL. Well, at least, not gaining any weight! But how to say 'No' to bubble tea?

They're so addictive... well, to me they are.

The Cha Time in Melbourne CBD was a real let down. It isn't the same as the ones here in Malaysia. So far, I've only been to the branch at Uptown and the other one in SS2 Mall and for both, quality and standards are there. I like how the tea taste is strong and the pearls are just the right chewable texture with the right amount of sweetness.

I've had many bubble teas and sometimes, on bad days, the pearls are hard and other days, they're just plain hard and no fun to chew.

However, since having my first bubble tea in Cha Time, I am addicted. And still am. Just last week, I had it on Sunday night, Monday afternoon, Tuesday night and even Thursday night and also on Saturday!

Seriously, they should give people like me some rebates or points like the EasyWay in Australia. Evertime you buy a drink, you swipe your loyalty card. Every 10 drinks, you get a free one. Oooh, I think Cha Time has such offer. Instead of gaining points electronically, they stamp on a hard copy card. But seeing how I won't be here permanently, I let my friend gain the stamps.

I know I shouldn't but I can't help but wonder when to get my next cup of Pearl Milk Tea....

I miss you

2011-11-18T09:03:00.001+11:00

Once again, Mr. C and I parted ways. I flew back to Malaysia on Sunday, Melbourne time 3.40am via Emirates. Flight was delayed and we finally took off at 4.20am. Gosh! Flying at this time is crazy. By 2am and waiting to board, I kept wondering when I could board the freaking plane and get my sleep!

Mr. C and I don't do long distance well. Every time we're apart, we argue. Often times, conversations turn ugly leaving both of us frustrated and disgruntled. Prior to this trip, we had a talk on how we can try to avoid the repeat of the past.

Hopefully this time, things will be different. ;p I like how we are learning to overcome our distance. If we could do LDR for 4 years, what is a mere 4 weeks, right?

Despite seeing and being with Mr. C 24/7 when we're living together in Melbourne, I never get bored of his company. And somehow, we don't tire of each other. In fact, his cute antics grow on me (most times). I love watching him as he sleeps. His peaceful and boyish looks just tugs at my heart. Being here and with him there, I am counting down the days till we meet again.

And finally, we'll be walking down the aisle and pledging our forever to each other in front of family and friends. I really hope all goes well and it will be a truly beautiful and special day not just for us but for everyone else.

See you in 21 days time!!

Till then... XOXO!!

Book review and Giveaway : Animal People

2011-11-17T21:52:00.004+11:00

I love to read. From an early age, I'd read Enid Blyton's book one after another and eventually, I graduated to the Nancy Drew, the Jupiter Jones series and Sweet Valley High followed by Harlequin romances, John Grisham and what not.

In Melbourne, you'll see me going in the library and coming out with 20 over books much to Mr. C's fascination. He truly does find it interesting that I can actually finish reading a 300 - 500 pages book a day. If it is a page turner, you'll see me dying to finish the novel and in three hours or less, I'd be flipping to the last page. However, some books, each line can be a real drag and it feels like it will take forever just to reach the end of the book!

When Nuffnang Australia was giving an opportunity to read and review a book, I jump to the opportunity. And to my delight, I was one of the few bloggers who were given the privilege to do a Product Talk post courtesy of Nuffnang Australia.

This isn't exactly my typical kind of book to read which is good. Of late, I find myself looking for a change in my reading materials. Reading romance novels doesn't do much for my dwindling intellect.

To be honest, it took me awhile to get into the rhythm of Animal People by Charlotte Wood.

I read a couple of pages whilst I was in the midst busy packing for my trip back to Malaysia. The beginning was a bit slow for me, at first. But as you read on, you feel compelled to keep reading to see how it all ends.

This book tells the story of Stephen's ordinary journey in life on an ordinary day and how he intends to call it quits with his girlfriend. With that decision in hand, we are shown how miserable Stephen is with his life, which many of us can relate to, such as his poor relationship with his family and unfulfilled job satisfaction. If his life wasn't dismissal enough, his day goes from bad to worse.

As to how all this relates to the book title, 'Animal People', I shall leave it to you to grab a copy of the book to discover it for yourself. No one likes a spoiler. ;p

And for one lucky reader, here is a chance to win yourself a free copy of Charlotte Wood's Animal People courtesy of Nuffnang Australia. All you have to do is follow my blog and leave a comment telling me if you are an animal person and why you are. And if you are not, tell me why not.

It is that simple. So, what are you waiting for??!

Entries will close on 24th November 2011, 11pm Malaysian Time. This competition is open to residents in Australia and Malaysia only. Winners will be announced on this blog. Do make sure you leave an email I can contact you with in the event you win. :)

Leaving home for home

2011-11-16T18:00:00.001+11:00

#1 On Emirates flying from Melbourne (now my home) back to Malaysia (where I used to call home where Mr. C forbids me from referring to as home anymore as Melbourne should be my home where he is at ;p )

#2 I have been sitting on AirAsia for the many times to and fro Australia and Malaysia that I felt totally 'pampered' on this trip back on Emirates especially when I saw the pillow and blanket! First thing I do is to scan the movie list. It was 4am in the morning and despite knowing how important sleep is as I would be having a really busy day once touched down, it did not deter me one bit from watching a movie.

#3 Although the pillow, blanket and movie list made me a happy camper, the food reminded me once again to the old, 'yer, airplane food sucks!' line. Basically, AirAsia's meal is waaaay tastier IMHO. What was good is that, at least you get water and juice and tea and coffee!

#4 Welcome back to Malaysia!! First thing that greeted me at KLIA was the icky toilet! Was rather surprised that the toilet at the International Airport was poorly maintained. Not only was the toilet dirty, it stank of dried urine!

#5 First Monday back, we had a Meal at home together. We had Roasted chicken bought from Carrefour at Tropicana City Mall with tomatoes and blanched brocolli with egg and bacon.

#6 Everytime I am back, I definitely have my Tom Yam Fried Rice fix at Taman Mayang. The Aunty still remembers that I will add a 'hor bao tan' (fried egg) and more Tom Yam paste (though most people would think the added Tom Yam flavour is too salty for them). :) I must say, it is nice to be remembered despite not being around for awhile. Can't say much about people who are supposedly closer to me but seem to forget my existence when I am not around. Oh well. Life.

#7 Went to Mid Valley with my mother and we had 'Yao Char Guai' with Soya Bean at I Love Yoo!. My mother was really happy with the black kopi which is rather unusual as she has super high standards.

#8 NEVER GO TO JOJO's for pan mee!! I went to the SS2 branch with my parents and the food was really bad (no offense meant). After consuming the noodles, I felt nauseous and unwell. In fact, I didn't even finish it! The mince pork was really sweet with the noodles just tasting alright.

The chilli wasn't anything to shout about leading to my question, "WHY ARE PEOPLE STILL GOING THERE?". Unless they have other better food which I doubt it. A few friends have even commented that the food is really bad at all branches as I thought perhaps it was only the SS2 branch that had bad food, leaving me and my tummy with an unfavourable experience.

Up to date, I've yet to satiate my Chilli Pan Mee cravings! Face-to-face, HERE I COME!!

My God

2011-11-16T05:33:00.002+11:00

For the past few months leading up to my birthday, I've actually been looking about for a nice heart shaped pendant for Mr. C to buy for me. :) But it is actually rather difficult to get the right size and shape. Most heart shapes we saw were either too big a heart or too small. If it wasn't the size issue, it would be the flaw in design; too gaudy or too plain, too ostentatious or too simple.

Somehow, I have yet to find one that makes my insides scream 'MUST BUY!!'. I gather it must be a matter of time or perhaps, it's just not meant to be.

When I reached back Malaysia on Sunday, the reason for my hiatus from blogging, my mum told me that a distant aunt bought for me a gift since she couldn't make it for my wedding. Lo and behold, it was a heart shaped necklace set. Well, it isn't exactly something I would have chosen but it does look rather chic and something I would definitely wear.

And today, I went out for Bubble tea at Uptown's Cha Time with Miss Bubbly. She gave me a belated birthday present. And I must say I was rather taken aback to see the content.

It was a heart shaped pendant!! Pretty, simple and elegantish. I find it funny though 'cos I somehow thought that it would have been more appropriate for my love, Mr. C to buy me one but somehow, God sent other people to buy me, my heart shaped necklace.

I can only conclude that God is somehow reminding me that despite my lack of faith in friends and life at times and what not, He is forever faithful and is forever looking out for me. Not so much a reminder but more so I feel that He is watching over me.

Only He knows the depths of my soul and my innermost desires. How great my God is.

29.09.11 Indulgence Thursday

2011-11-09T09:46:00.003+11:00

Chicken Rigatoni at Glen Waverly's Mocha Jo's!

Cutesie Hello Kitty figurines at Knox Mall's Swarovski shop.

Churros indulgence at San Churros in Knox!

A Touching Story For Married People

2011-11-06T19:32:00.001+11:00

I received this email from Mr. PB and I think it's a good, gentle reminder for all, married and non-married people.

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My husband is an Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders. Three years of courtship and now, two years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings. I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband, is my complete opposite, his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about love. One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.

“Why?” he asked, shocked. “I am tired, there are no reasons for everything in the world!” I answered. He kept silent the whole night, seems to be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times.

My feeling of disappointment only increased, here was a man who can’t even express his predicament, what else can I hope from him? And finally he asked me:” What can I do to change your mind?” Somebody said it right, it’s hard to change a person’s personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.

Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: “Here is the question, if you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind, Let’s say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death, will you do it for me?” He said:” I will give you your answer tomorrow….”. My hopes just sank listening to his response.

I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes….

My dear, “I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further..” This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading. “When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen, I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.

You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you. You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city, I have to save my eyes to show you the way.

You always have the cramps whenever your “good friend” approaches every month, I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy. You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.

You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes, I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails,and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand… and tell you the colour of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young face…

Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do… I could not pick that flower yet, and die.. ” My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting… and as I continue on reading…

“Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk…

I rush to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread…. Now, I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone…

That’s life, and love. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.

Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has never been a model, it could be the most dull and boring form.. . flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands… and that’s our life… Love, not words win arguments…

11.10.11 Sal and I

2011-11-06T08:24:00.002+11:00

TOKYO DELI

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Life is funny at times. You never know where you will find yourself say in a weeks' time, a month's time, a year's time or even five years to ten years time. My pen pal relationship with Sal commenced when she left Malaysia for Melbourne when we were only 14 year olds. She started out as a friend's friend.

Who knew that after 13 years of her moving and our frequent correspondence would see me moving here permanently to Melbourne this year. And who knew that we would be able to hang out every once in awhile and go traipsing about indulging in coffee and fattening cakes!! ;p

Sal brought me to Tokyo Deli at Elsternwick. This suburb is pretty far from where I live but near to where she lives. I've been here once before and LOVED the Japanese food that we had; she had a bento set and I had the beef terriyaki.

This shop is interesting as part of the shop serves as an eatery with tables and chairs for patrons to order food, sit and eat. The other part is like a grocery shop that sells Japanese and Korean food. I had the same dish as before.

My delicious beef terriyaki that cost AUD8.50.

Sal's pork burger with rice going for AUD8.50.

Sal's white and newly bought Samsung Galaxy S2 looking sleek!

The beef terriyaki was as delicious as I remembered it to be. Tasty and came in good portion. There was meat, some vege, overall a well balanced meal!

Next up, after our meal, we adjourned a few shops down to Aviv, an awesome bakery shop that is just filled with lots of lovely puffs and pastries to satiate ones sweet tooth.

This is my second time coming here and you know how sometimes you step into a shop and you are spoilt for choices; everything you see just looks yummy and screaming to be eaten, well, this shop brought about those guilty feelings.

I know I should resist temptation and not eat more than I should especially sweet stuff. So much for losing weight for my big day. LOL. As you can see, the battle was lost the moment I stepped into the shop.

Sal wanted her Orange cake whilst I wanted the Vanilla Slice. The Vanilla Slice was just as good as the first time I had it and definitely WAYYY better than the one I tried at Gloria Jeans. The top puff pastry was nice and fluffy topped off with icing sugar which complimented the slice. I reckon it is custard filling that sits in between the top and the bottom waiting to be devoured.

If I had more space in my already filled up tummy from lunch at Tokyo Deli's, I would have had another slice. LOL. The pastries here are lovely but the coffee isn't much to shout about.

Everytime when I am out with Sal, I notice that all we do is eat and shop. Bad combination especially when I am NOT supposed to be doing either! Lol. Despite arranging to go for swim, we've yet to actually step into any pool as she fell ill.

It's nice to have a good chum to hang out with every once in awhile for some girl time. Wonder how are we going to hang out next time once I get a job and am not able to meet her for 'time out' sessions during the weekdays... :(

Nuffnang Blog Awards, Here I Come

2011-11-05T23:42:00.002+11:00

Once again, Nuffnang Asia- Pacific Blog Awards 2011 is upon us. Basically, the Awards are a way to honour bloggers across the Asia- Pacific region. After nominations, voting and what not, the final end, the awards ceremony will be held in Malaysia , kind of like the Asia Pacific version of the Oscars!

And the night doesn't end there, there will be an after party at a secret location in KL! Oooh... intrigue much? Well, I am!

You get to nominate your favourite blogger or one you deemed has influenced you much!

The first Award Ceremony was held in Singapore about two years ago and based on the photos floating about cyberspace, one can only conclude that it is a 'MUST ATTEND' event. Well, at least ONCE a lifetime to walk the red carpet and brush shoulders with some famous people and about-to-be well known bloggers after the grand night.

I definitely regretted not making more effort then, in competitions and events organised by Nuffnang. But life's too short for regrets, right? So, here's my chance to try and see if I can attend this award!

Kenny Sia with Joanne Peh taken from Kenny Sia's blog.

The problem is, you can't buy tickets to this event like how you would go about purchasing tickets to the movies or to concerts. Just like everything else in the world whereby nothing comes easy, you'll have to earn a spot and there are only 500 spots available for both local Malaysian bloggers and foreign ones! Dang!

But fret not. There are ways to win invites to this event. One can either blog about ones journey with Nuffnang or one could simply just state the top 3 reasons why one MUST attend the Awards!

As I haven't actually been better acquainted with the Nuffnang blogging community much nor join in their events etc except winning a couple of free movie tickets and cashing out two cheques, I wouldn't say I've had much of a Nuffnang journey to talk about. Hence, I opt to state my top 3 reasons.

REASON #1

Hmmm... What would compel me to attend this event especially on the eve of my wedding??! Well, like I said, I've yet to know the blogging community in Nuffnang Malaysia in person. More or less, I have been following and reading their blogs, not religiously, but enough to know about them and what they let on in their blogs. Some of the bloggers do inspire me. Some with their wit, cutesieness and total human-ness.

If you really know me, I am an introverted talkative person. I am a pretty shy person (though most wouldn't believe it) and despite actually coming across FourFeetNine and her partner, TimothyTiah, I never had the guts to say 'hi' and ask for pictures with them.

So, it would be nice for a chance to meet them in person, take photos with them like a groupie would though I wouldn't call myself a hardcore fan and well, overcome this awkward shyness that overtakes me when I actually do happen across any of the well known bloggers or people I know, in general. ;p

Besides that, it'll be nice to meet some Melbourne bloggers and who knows, get to know them better back where we live, in Melbourne! :)

Beautiful blue cocktail dress

REASON #2

Guess where this prestigious event is to be held at??? None other than the Grand Ballroom of Putrajaya Marriott! Marriott is a well known hotel and I am sure the food served will be top notched and so will the ceremony awards be! And if you know me, I have this thing for hotels. My mum usually will proceed to inform me that hotels are not the cleanest nor most hygienic place which won't sway me one bit!

If the entertainment of what the night will ensue is not enough, what's more, I am sure you'll get to eye many good looking chaps decked out in their suits whilst the ladies dress to kill in cocktail dresses as dress code for the evening is 'Formal'.

Evening dresses by Vera Wang

Dressed up ladies...

Men in suits cut a dashing figure

REASON #3

I was on Nuffnang Malaysia for the past few years but now that I've moved permanently to Melbourne, it was only fitting to migrate account to Nuffnang Australia. Besides, I will be back in Malaysia for my wedding then and this would make an awesome wedding present! ;p

As a foreign blogger (which I assume I should qualify since I am under Nuffnang Australia), if I win, I would be entitled to one free invite, a 3D2N stay at Putrajaya Marriott (have I mentioned that I LOVE staying in hotels and haven't had much opportunity to do??!) and an invite to an exclusive after party! So, tell me, if it was you, wouldn't you want such an opportunity?

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I just realised after typing out this blog post that IF I win, I am only entitled ONE invite and not a pair! To go alone might not be as fun as having a friend, or most importantly, Mr. C! Now, I am torn. Let's just decide if I do win! Who knows, the organisers might be kind enough to give me a pair so that I can have a magnificent night before my wedding day! :)

No harm wishing and hoping eh.

周杰倫 - 你好嗎 (2011新歌)

2011-11-04T21:33:00.000+11:00

Jay has always brought me back to a time before now. You know how when you listen to certain songs, it brings you back to a certain time, a certain period of your life where you were going through certain issues/ phases and every time you hear that song, it brings you down a certain memory lane?

For me, it's the same. The only thing is that, it's not just a song but Jay.

Every time I listen to any of Jay's songs, it brings me back to a certain year. A certain year where it all began. A year where someone first introduced him to me. I still remember listening to 可愛女人 and 星晴 and especially 黑色幽默 as if it was just yesterday.

Somehow, despite listening to Wang Lee Hom or any other singers, Jay will always be my first 'Chinese song' singer love.

And for that, you also hold a special place in my heart. :)

Lyrics extracted from HERE.

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作詞：李汪哲
作曲：周杰倫

牆上靜止的鐘是為誰停留
是不是和我一樣賴著不走
你說故事已經結束很久
我忘了　向前走

我努力假裝現在過得很好
現在的你看來已不需要我
也許在不同的時空
還牽著　你的手

想知道你真的過得好嗎
没有我也许是種解脫
將思念穿梭在宇宙數千光年
悄悄到　你身邊
現在我試著習慣一個人過
也許你已經開始新的生活
陪著我的叫做寂寞
陪你的　是誰呢？

想知道你真的過得好嗎
沒有我也许是種解脫
將思念穿梭在宇宙數千光年
悄悄到　你身邊

現在我試著習慣一個人過
也許你已經開始新的生活
陪著我的叫做寂寞
陪你的　是誰呢？

也許在不同的時空
還牽著　你的手

Sneak Preview :: KC and Chik ::

2011-11-03T16:49:00.004+11:00

Last Sunday, I helped with some pre-wedding shots for Mr. C's colleague, Chik and his lovely fiance, KC. The skies were pretty much gloomy and threatened to pour. Based on weather forecast, sunny skies were promising from 1pm-3pm.

In the morning, Chik and KC had their more formal pre-wedding shoot at Carlton Gardens and Royal Exhibition Centre taken by a professional photographer recommended by their make up artiste. Then, they had their lunch.

After lunch, I met up with them and another two friend of theirs, the designated photographers of the day who were equipped with their DSLRs. My self-appointed role was to assist with the props and to take some photos, if I could as I really wanted to practice photo taking and utilise whatever skills I learnt from my Street Photography tour that I participated in, one month ago.

The location was at Melbourne Uni as the couple pursued their different degrees in this beautiful, filled with heritage building. At first, it was tough taking pictures as we were all sort of noobs.

I, then resorted to browsing at wedding photographers' portfolio's like Jenny Sun, Stories, Lighted Pixel and Axioo, that I had saved on my hand phone for such an occasion, for inspiration.

As I didn't ask the couple for permission to post this pictures and most couples wouldn't want their pre-wedding photos up before their BIG day, I am only sneaking in pictures that you can't really see their faces.

I don't even know if they will use my photos but apparently, they were pretty happy with my work. :) Yea!

Here are some personal tips for your own pre-wedding or any shoot, for the matter.

Photo taking tips #1

Props are not necessarily everything but they are still important. It adds to the character and story of the photos taken. Try to get props that tells us your story, your history which other.

If you met in high school or college/uni years, you can take it in a library or a school/uni set up with books, geeky specs and outfit. If you're a doctor and he/she's an engineer or accountant, for example, bring along a stethoscope and calculators with rulers. If you both love to cook, have the photo shoot in a classy looking kitchen, could be yours, could be a friends or some where quaint.

Other props couples love to use are balloons, teddy bears, pinic baskets etc.

Photo taking tips #2

Make up and hairdo are plus points and so does dressing up for a shoot even if it is a casual one. Vibrant dress/outfits for the ladies makes them pop and stand out from the background. Guys clothing will be picked to match the girls outfit.

Photo taking tips #3

Bring your winning smile. Practice your poses and smiles before hand to get a rough idea on angles that showcase you in a better light. Perhaps your right side features better than your right. Bending your shoulders forward a bit makes your arms look slimmer and lends a sexier look to the pose.

Where you put your hands and how you stand or point your feet matters. Attention to detail matters even the smallest details show. The height you hold your flowers, the angle of your gaze, all makes a difference between a crappy photo to a mediocre one and even a great photo!

Photo taking tips #4
Research, research, research! Make sure to do some homework before hand on what kind of photos you would like. Do you like the touchy feely kind? The 'I stare at you, you stare at me, let's smell each other' kind? Let's gaze off into the sunset?

If your have parents or relatives that frown upon kissing or too much contact photos, you could always do cheeky ones. Instead of a photo showing you both smooching, you could 'kiss' behind balloons or an umbrella with your silhouette showing through.

Photo taking tips #5

It's good to have a couple of friends along to help you carry the props and setting it up for each scene. I was going crazy running around setting the props, blowing bubbles and trying to take some photos in between but I felt, my main job for the day was prop lady first, photographer last.

In Melbourne, the weather might have been gloomy that day but boy was it cold. We had to rush to the bride-to-be and drape her with her jacket whenever the photographer was taking a break. Poor lady. You could see her goosebumps!

In Malaysia, with the heat and humidity, make sure you bring LOTS of tissues or even better, bring towels along. Mr. C and I forgot to bring towels and we ran out of tissues within half hour into the shoot and we didn't have any friends along, hence, we had to lug our props about ourselves.

I hope this was a helpful post to all couples preparing for their pre-wedding shoot and also for photographer wannabes.

Shopping makes me happy

2011-11-03T14:50:00.002+11:00

Most girls will agree that a dose of retail therapy cheers them up when they're down or upset and what not.

Me? Stress or no stress, upset or not, shopping makes me a happy camper! :)

Ever since coming back to Malaysia for wedding planning and what not, I've bought two bags and six pairs of shoes!!

BAGS : One from Jusco (the above picture) at a discounted price and another cutesy looking bag in Penang's Prangin Mall for half the price of the bag above.

SHOES : Two pairs from Vincci that was going off at half priced! It cost me about RM20 for each pair; Bought a white strapped wedge and a grey peep toe. In Penang's Prangin Mall, I bought a pink unique front flats, three peep toe heels; black, greyish blue and champagne!

I know that's crazy!! In my defense, they were all going at half price and was approx AUD10 per pair and for this price, I wouldn't be able to find back similar cut and style in Australia. Australia's fad tends to be really heavy shoes with super high heels.

So, definitely a good bargain! I can wear it out or I can wear it to work. So, WIN WIN! :)

Really liked this pair from Shoe Point in Penang but price was over RM130 without discount! :(

And another sexy looking heels that was just out of my budget despite me loving the style and colour oh-so-very-much!

Rows and rows of shoes of all styles and colours!!

Even wedding ones!!

So, ever in Penang and want to buy reasonable priced shoes, head to Prangin Mall in town. It's opposite Komtar Walk. I reckon it feels like Sg Wang. A brighter lit and more spacious Sg. Wang! There are just level after level of clothes, shoes, bag and what not! We only made it on one floor and we had to leave to head back to Petaling Jaya.

Lols.

Even my sister who is NOT into shopping but several pairs of feminine looking flats and a pretty pink bag! See, even shopping did make her feel happy that day!

Love Learn and Live

2011-11-01T10:37:00.001+11:00

Of late, 'wise words' and 'love quotes' as below have been assailing my FB wall. I joined the bandwagon and shared most of the below as I believe many can identify with what's been said. Funnily, a few friends have messaged asking me if I was alright and if everything was okay with my love life. LOL.

Everyone has been hurt and disappointed being in a relationship and coming out from one. Many go through more than once in their lifetime. Some learn from their mistakes, their past and some don't. Sometimes, it is straightforward and easy to walk away. But often times, leaving is never an option despite the misery one is in.

Being with that person, no matter how bad they can be for you, they make you whole, they complete you. They make you feel, you. You can love and yet, at times you also hate. That person you're with can mean the world to you and yet be your doom. And you wonder why do you subject yourself to such misery, why can't you leave and walk away.

No one should be allowed so much power over another person's wellbeing. Too much of something never serves well for anyone. With too much power leaves room for abuse. It is always the case to lose something precious only to realise one's lost. But by then, your lost could very well be another person's gain.

For those who have been taken forgranted, you give your all, your everything but sadly, all you're left with is a broken heart. A heart that has cracked many times and finds it hard to heal. Fret not, all is not lost. For now, you may feel it is the end of the world, your world. But life goes on. Never stop believing. Never stop hoping.

When you're looking for that something, you tend not to find it BUT when you stop looking, it appears right before your very eyes. And sometimes, you don't have to look far. Look around you and for all you know, that very person is just right next to you all along, all these while.

Falling in and out of love is inevitable. No relationship is perfect. Never compare yours with anothers. No two people are the same. When both goes into a relationship, both often are of different genders and with that, different mindsets. Not only does that matter, so does both your personalities and character. If that wasn't enough, both your family upbringing can affect your relationship!

All the above matters but it does not define the outcome of your relationship. It does not mean that you're doom to fail even before your relationship has even started, or given a chance to bloom. What matters is how you deal with the differences, the issues and what not.

We are always taught to study hard, obtain a good job, find a nice partner and have a home etc but we are rarely taught how to deal with issues, the mature way to resolving conflicts in a calm and rational manner. Instead, the message broadcast in Hollywood and portrayed in the movies, seeping into society is that if your relationship or marriage doesn't work out, let's cheat, let's have affairs, let's break up and find someone new.

But over and over again, you see Hollywood stars hoping from one partner's bed to another, looking for love in one person's arms and the following week, another. Not just that, look at our friends and family, they too, are searching for love, the right one.

And sometimes, that itself is the problem. We're always looking for something better when good could be enough. There will always be some one better out there; someone smarter, someone better looking, someone funnier, someone wittier but when will enough be enough?

Mr. C and I come from different family upbringing and we have oppossing personalities and characters. We had an informal marriage counselling last year and did a personality test. Based on a series of questions that we both had to fill up to generate the end results, we had zero compatibility and similarities.

Of course, that is a cause for concern with our counselor. He said it is usual to get low percentage but rarely to get ZERO. Despite it, it doesn't mean that Mr. C and I are bound to fail and head for Splitsville but it just means that we will have more issues to handle and sort out as opposed to a couple with more similarities and similar wavelength.

We have been in a relationship to each other for the past 11 years. It wasn't smooth sailing and problem argument free but we have had our good moments too. It's learning to overcome each others weaknesses and rising above it all.

I know that in this past two years, more couples are straying. It is hard to stay faithful to one's partner especially in our society that promotes promiscuity. Virginity is no longer a prized possession and sex talks are not as taboo as they were in our parents' and their parents' time.

People say, one should be open minded and it's best to 'test' each others compatibility in the bedroom before committing each other's forever exclusively to one another. And see how well that has turned out for the majority?

Instead, many have had their hearts torn apart. Lies are told over and over again and trust is taken forgranted. Sleeping about isn't just such a simple act. Infidelity isn't something that just happens despite what people says. It usually starts harmlessly at the beginning with hanging out sessions and teasing leading to flirtations and ends disastrously for one party, if not both. Not factoring in the scorned girlfriend or boyfriend.

And it eats into your being and affects your emotional health and wellbeing. It affects your judgment and thoughts. You'll do things you never thought you'd do. The worst thing is you know you should stop, you want to stop but somehow, you can't and you don't know why you can't. And it goes on till it finally ends. At the end of it, someone always gets hurt; the perpetrator, the fling or either person's partner.

People fall in and out love for a reason and for a season. People stray, cheat and have affairs. Some intentional, some somehow just did. Whatever the reason, it's never justifiable. A clean cut and a clean break is always the best for all parties concerned. Naturally, someone is bound to get hurt but everyone deserves an answer and respect.

Someone I know just broke up with his girlfriend of 9 years. Few months back, a friend broke up with his girlfriend of 6 years. They both cited that they just didn't have feelings anymore. In a relationship that has lasted so long, feelings might fade or rather, sometimes, we just forget why we fell in love in the first place.

Of course, some just aren't meant to be and when it's time to walk, it is the best for both in the long run. Mr. C and I have had our share of ups and definitely down times. We even almost parted ways for good but we decided that 10 years have got to count for something. That 'we' meant something to each other. And we were willing to let bygones be bygones or rather, give each other another chance and look where we are, in love like we were 16 again.

Sure, we do squabbles and some days, I just want to clobber him and him, wishing I'll get off his case. But that's life. Just accept, embrace and make the best of the now to have a better tomorrow.

Our experiences do make us stronger and wiser or at least, it should. We learn from our past, live for the now so that we can have the future. At the end of the day, you can choose to react negatively and lament how life dealt you a lousy hand or take the shittiness and turn it into something good, if not bearable.

Awesomeness don't just happens. You can choose that you want it and make it happen. It's been said,'when life gives you lemons, make lemonade'. What doesn't kill you just makes you stronger and every cloud has a silver lining.

Your choice, the glass is half empty or half full.

9 Deadly words used by women

2011-10-31T22:22:00.004+11:00

I read this from Miss Cheerio's blog and just had to share.

Definitely agree with #1, #3 and #8 when one has repeatedly argue over the same matter, #5 which Mr. C hates! but it's better that than me starting a litany of tirade especially when it's not a new argument or it is best to just #5 and agree to disagree, #7 is so true 'cos Mr. C does say 'welcome' back at times probably just to grate my nerves further and it does, pissing me off even further!

How about you?