Wednesday, September 26, 2012

The bigger person

Today, I was the bigger person than Mr. C.

When you're in a relationship, it's all about compromising and giving way to the other partner. Of course, I don't mean giving in all the time.

But sometimes, even when you don't feel like it or when you think you are right and he's wrong, you got to take the first step and say,"Are you alright? What's bothering you? Why are you upset? Let's talk about this".

Often times, Mr. C is the one that comes to me first after an argument. I can be rather hot headed and hard headed. These days, he, too can be so. Hence, I learnt to meet him half point and at times, I approach him first.

And it's harder when I am right or when I think he has no right to be mad in the first place.

But that's what relationships are about. Finding your footing and learning to deal with each other's expectations and opinions.

We've been together for 12 years but it's always an ongoing work-in-progress. So, where ever you are and whom ever you are with, when you feel like throwing in the towel, when you're upset, when you're mad, take a deep breathe and slowly exhale.

Then think, what brought you to be with this person? I am sure with all the down times and arguments, there must be many good times. 

Take the first step. Say you are sorry (if you really are). Tell him or her, you may not agree with their opinions but it doesn't have to mean one is wrong and the other is right. It just means, you've to learn to agree to disagree and leave it be.

And sometimes, it means, being the bigger person.

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