Monday, May 31, 2010

Popping the cherry

A friend asked me several weeks ago if one's virginity is a big thing. This was my answer to her...

Picture was taken from HERE.

Yes. Virginity is a BIG thing. A sacred thing.

It is something that ought to be revered and be treasured. But in this so called modern world, in some cultures, it's deemed embarrassing to still be a virgin at a certain age. I think it's sad that we don't talk much about this in our Asian culture. How often does one's parents talk about it in a form of and open, honest discussion? Zilch.

My friend asked if it is a big deal and I said, "Of course it is! Just because everyone is doing it doesn't mean we should all jump on the bandwagon and join in the party". I mean, I am not being all righteous and sitting on my high horse judging non-virgins. If you've done it, I am sure one has had ones reasons to it. And perhaps it just happened without you planning cos it just happened.

That's why I previously addressed the ladies, don't let your Bf push you into doing something you're not ready for. Even if it means losing the prick. Anyone's virginity is definitely MORE worthy over a useless guy who can't see it.

If you haven't done it and might be considering popping your cherry, then my point to you would be, at least know WHY you want to lose it, the main reason. Don't lose it for the wrong reasons and don't lose it to only regret later on because, by then, it's a little late.

God isn't against sex. In fact, he created it! He has always meant sex to be something beautiful between a man and a woman but within the context of marriage and it's within reason. But humans being humans have to destroy and contaminate anything good.

You think about it. If your bf/gf does it with someone else before you, there might be some insecurities and comparisons will be inevitable. At that very point, you may think he/she is THE one. The person that you will be with forever! Cos right at that point in time, you both are so in love and everything feels right.

But let me ask you this, how many girls have been caught up in this lie? How many people have felt that it was right there and then but only regretted losing it to that blardy arsehole later on when he moves on or when she moves on, realising that that person was never THE one?? And countless girls (even celebrities) have faced humiliation when their bfs leaked their sex tapes out. Just google it. There are so many such cases.

You watch Hollywood movies with all the passionate, sizzling scenes and you think you want that. That you and your partner is so in love like that. More like in lust cos look what happens to them. Brad Pitt who was then married to Jeniffer Anniston gets together with Angelina Jolie and that's like a repeated scene with 90% of the Hollywood celebrities. Divorces after divorces.

At least, when you both, who has never ever done it, do it together for the first time after marrying, you get to experiment with each other. You get to be embarrassed together. You get to blunder over things together. You get to practice and become better with each other. If not, one might be insecure of the other person's notches, experiences and what not.

It's no longer a western culture, even conservative Asians are doing it. Many are having one night stands and f*** buddies. Many are cheating and many are just going with the motion, giving into lust. The innocent ones tend to get used and some, over the hurt of being used turns to being a playboy/playgirl and hurt others and the process just continues.

Someone just told me few weeks back that he loves this girl oh-so-very-much but the next thing would you know it, he's slept with someone else and is moving in with her. They agree to just be f*** buddies. To me, it's like wth? Seriously. Dumb move. What happens if things don't work out and one decides they no longer want to be in this warped relationship? That person would have to move out. Silly Silly.

This topic is never ending and will always be there for different people with different perspectives to pore over it from all angles. But I still stand by that one should wait for that special someone. and not just "open shop" for any Tom, Dick and Harry.

Waiting isn't a crime. Someone once said to me why wait?? if you wait, you're wasting the time that you can be enjoying. Well, that person is an arsehole and only thinks about his/her pleasure. And trust me, there are a lot of selfish people out there thinking only about satiating their junk.

If a guy really loves you, he would wait. If not, maybe his love just isn't strong enough.

What are your thoughts on this? Do you agree or disagree? Or do you just think I am a prude? =p

Bad Ass Visit #2

This is definitely a loooong overdue post.

In March, I popped by Bad Ass Coffee situated at Tropicana City Mall with Miss J. The Saturday before that, she brought me there for my first visit. I had the famous snickerlicious drink and it just blew my mind apart. Ok. That was somewhat an exaggeration cos my mind is still intact. =p

But it is waaaay better than Starbuck's frappucino, that's for sure. When you drink Starbuck's Frappucino, at the end, when the ice has melted, it dilutes whatever drink you were having. Sometimes you get a chunkier so-called blended ice in your mouth.

At Badass, they blend the ice really well and they even have ice cubes made of coffee so that when your drink melts, it's not diluted.

Miss J introduced me to this place and also her really funny friend- Dariz.

Bad Ass Coffee has actually been in business for over 15 years, not in Malaysia but in Hawaii. They provide quality gourmet coffee online and in over 65 retail locations. Besides that, they offer American-grown, Hawaiian coffee from Oahu, Kauai, Maui and of course their 100% Kona coffee.

Kona coffee is widely known as the
richest most flavorful coffees in the world. Read more about it HERE.

Price wise is about the same as Starbucks. Definitely decadent and sinful but what's wrong with a little indulgence every once in awhile. *wink*

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Kooky Pics #228 Go STOP!

This is a famous card game in Korea.
If you watch Korean dramas such as "Full House", you'll notice that they play it often.

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Sunday, May 30, 2010

Love and Forever

Picture taken from HERE.

What is your idea of forever?
Who do you want to be your forever?
Do you even believe in forever?

Cos I used to.

Kooky Pics #227 Baby Aliens!!!

Silkworms otherwise known as Pupa in Korean.
번데기 (Beon De Gi)
Koreans love it apparently!
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Saturday, May 29, 2010

Back Up Plan

Pic taken from HERE.

On Tuesday, Mr. C, his colleagues and I went to watch "Back Up Plan" starring Jeniffer Lopez. In all honesty, despite me being a romance movie maniac, I would have much preferred to watch Ironman2 or Robin Hood or some action packed movie for a change.

Ever since getting here, I feel as if I am missing out on all the yummy movies. I haven't even watched Ipman2! Back home, I would probably be out catching all the new movies. Bummer.

The movie started out a little bit slow showing Jeniffer Lopez- "Zoe" being inseminated and hoping to get pregnant after being tired of waiting for Mr. Right to come along. Leaving the doctor's and headed to work, she hailed a cab and got into it. At the same time, this other guy got into the cab and the rest they say is history.

I think she looks really gorgeous in this dress. If I could even just pull this off and wear it for my registration, I would be a happy woman. =) She has really slimmed down a fair bit for this movie. I remember having more curves in the past. And this is her after giving birth to her kiddos, she doesn't look an inch of it!
Pic taken from HERE.

Basically, her having her own baby was her back up plan and then this guy comes along and messes that plan up. Tell me when does a guy NEVER messes things up?! The movie shows how they got together to the giving birth bit and of course, a happy ever after ending. Or so it insinuates at the ending.

I think it is really endearing of the guy to stick by her despite it NOT being his baby and what more to say two bundles of supposed joy. I rate it a 6.5/10 though as it was a much predictable movie with no surprises nor twists.

Instead, I recommend you guys to rent "While you were sleeping" starring Sandra Bullock and Bill Pullman. I laughed and teared watching that show. It also leaves you going "awwwww". And because of movies like this and "The Proposal", "Two weeks notice" and "Miss Congeniality", Sandra Bullock holds a special spot in my heart.

Lines like this will make you go awwww.. (you've got to watch the show to appreciate it though)

Peter once asked me when I fell in love with Jack. And I told him, "It was while you were sleeping."

Kooky Pics #226 Marvelous Movenpick

Movenpick Ice Cream with waffles at Southbank, Brisbane.

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Friday, May 28, 2010

Hotcake House at Garden City

Last week, Mr. Bf (will be henceforth be known as Mr. C) and I decided to visit the Garden City Shopping Complex , Mt Gravatt which is about 15minutes drive away from where we live.

Although I have been to Brisbane several times, I have yet to step into this mall. After visiting the mall, I feel that it's pretty much about the same as Carindale Mall that is just across the road from where I am staying at- 5 minutes walk.

All the shops in Garden City ie JayJays, Rubi, Easyway and etc., I can get in Carindale Mall. So, it's nothing much to shout about. Well, except for several shops and one of them being Hotcake House.

Basically, this shop is pretty simple and basic. They specialise in hot cakes- a Taiwanese sweet delicacy and other Taiwanese food and Japanese style pancakes which are savoury.

Being a sweet tooth, I opted to try the Custard flavour hotcake and boy, it was YUMMY!! Ever the adventurous one, Mr. C had the Sesame flavour and it wasn't as nice as mine. To prove my point, he even sneaked a few bites off mine! >_<Just nice for a little pick me up as t only costs AUD1 per piece!!
The hotcakes at the bottom right looked like mini burgers.

So, the next time you see any Hotcake House, don't forget to grab a piece of hotcake for yourself! If you prefer savoury over sweet, you can always give the cheese flavoured hotcake a try and let me know how it tastes!!

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Kooky Pics #225 When dusk arrives

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Thursday, May 27, 2010

Book Review : Dear John

I read this book "Dear John" before I came to Brissie. It is written by Nicholas Sparks whereby many of his novels were adapted into movies. Famous movies in fact such as "A walk to remember" starring Mandy Moore and "The Notebook" that starred Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams.

It took me awhile to finish Dear John. It wasn't cause it was uninteresting and not a page turner but more so that the whole tone of the book was just sad even up to the end.

And if you really knew me, you would know by now that I loooove happy ending books and movies. I dislike sad endings mainly cause I feel that's how it is in real life. It's what I would call- reality. Not many people get to attain the fairytale happily ever after romance we often see in the movies.

Hence, I am hesitating if I should watch this movie. After all, I know how it's going to end. Then again, they have Channing Tatum as the main actor. And if you've read my blog, you would know what I think of him. Definitely droolworthy material. He also acted in Step Up 1 and 2, just in case you were wondering as to why he looks familar.

The movie however has a different ending to the book. It is a happy ending version. So, who knows, I might just catch it after all. And that will be after watching Ipman2, Ironman2, Letters to Juliet, Robin Hood and OMG... I wonder if I'll even have the time to catch them all or even any.

Stay tune for movie and book reviews.

Tea time at Tea Pot Cafe

Before I left Malaysia, I was meeting up with friends over yam chas and dinners and even tea time! I have been to this shop only once but many years ago. Probably a decade or more and it's still there. The same as ever.

Gill and I decided to have afternoon tea at Teapot Cafe that is situated in SS2. It is along the famous road filled with bridal shops and teochew porridge.

Cute interior with all types and sizes of teapots around the shop.

Quite pack for afternoon tea.

But service needs some improving. Took us FOREVER to get a menu and to order our food, what more to say when we wanted to pay our bill!

Tuna Sandwich

A pair of Scones with cream and a Carrot Cake.

A pot of tea. You can choose which type you want.

We decided to have the set that cost about RM19ish if I am not wrong. It came with the above tuna sandwich, scones, cake and a pot of refillable tea. I would say it was worth the money we paid. Sandwich was good. Had the right amount of mayonnaise.

The cake and scone was warmed up. Simple yummy digging in even if one isn't hungry. We kept drinking one cup of tea after another and was stuffed by the end of our girly yam cha session. Definitely a good place to go for scones and sandwiches or other finger food and pastries.

If only we had more time for more girly outings before I had to leave. Then again, I'll be going back in a few months. So, heads up!!!

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Kooky Pics #224 Bubble tea freak!!

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Wednesday, May 26, 2010

A dream or A nightmare

I had a dream last night,
Don't ask what it was,
Cos I ain' telling.
It's not the first time though.

Which has got me thinking.
Really thinking.
Does dreams mean anything? Something?
Cos if it does, then I am in deep shit.

Why? Why does it keep plaguing me?
I am here. I've made my choice.
Right? So why can't I seem to let it go?
Cos I really wished I could.

Have you ever had that dream,
That dream where it felt real.
As if the dream was reality,
and reality was a dream.

Even if things had turned out differently,
Would I be able to let the other it go?
Cos it's not a matter of just throwing it aside,
And forgetting about it.

Only someone so cruel could do such a thing.
Goody two shoes, people used to call me.
But I am not a paragon of virtue,
and neither have I ever said I was or acted as one.

But neither am I cruel.
However, people change.
Seasons change,
and so do feelings.

Kooky Pics #223 Of photos and albums

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Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Letters to Juliet

Ooooh... watching this trailer makes me WANT TO WATCH THE MOVIE NOW!!!
Poster taken from HERE. You can read about the plot at the same time.

It looks promising. Starring Amanda Seyfried (the main actress in MamaMia)

I tried looking on the GSC website to see when it'll be screening in Malaysia and am surprised that it's NOT currently showing in the cinemas and neither is it due to be released in June nor July. Strange. It seems to good to be missed.

It has been showing in Australia since 13 May 2010. Hope to catch it soon! Time to drag Mr. Bf to a romance genre movie. *hehe* Then I'll write a review on it.

슈퍼주니어(SuperJunior)_메리유(Marry U)_뮤직비디오(MusicVideo)

I was just surfing youtube the other day and was clicking songs after songs. I came across this particular one whereby the melody just spoke to me. It's in Korean and also a different version in Mandarin. Sung by Super Junior M, which is a different group from Super Junior.

Any guy who sings this to his girl will get a "I do", that's for sure!

I like the first guy's heartfelt singing. I think if any guy proposes like that, most girls would say "Yes" in a heartbeat! The fourth guy somehow brings to mind Takashi Kanashiro!!

Kooky Pics #222 My love affair with coffee

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Sunday, May 23, 2010

The Brothers in my life

Each and everyone of the below men are different in age, personalities and values. Yet, they are like brothers to me for the exception of the first one who is actually my brother whereby we share the same dad and mum!

At times, they can be really caring and hilarious. But other times, they bring out the ugly side in me, making me murder them...

.... in my mind... over and over and over.

But then again, what's a brother-sister relationship without the angst and fights, right??!

Gentle in nature. Recluse like a hermit at times. Smart and witty but introverted with a funny thinking. Forever layaning my bimbotic questions and mannerisms. Many a times, drove me up the wall where all I want to do is clobber someone silly and many a times, brings a smile to my face with just some simple, silly phrase. Corny ones, too!

THis one is always there for me whenever I needed a listening ear or that time when he drove all the way to meet me half point at Macap or somewhere along to pass me my colleague's laptop whilst my colleague and I drove up from Johor Bahru.

Forever treating me meals to fatten me up despite my feeble attempts to lose my love handles! Ferrying me around in his red, hot Golf GTI Sport but never letting me take a spin at it. Hummppph!

Always poking fun at me and call it a bullshitting training session, trying to prepare-innnocent-and somewhat-naive-me for the sharks of the world. Me, the disciple that can never beat the master, being him, at bullshitting. Tsk Tsk.

Occasionally a gentlemen (like close to never) and other times, a jerk. Correction, most times a jerk. A lot I have learnt from you, mostly bad but also a little good.

Thanks for the memories. I think SAM year, 2005 and this past one year will be forever etched in my memory. I like it when we have deep, soul searching talks as opposed to your not-so-subtle bird watching activities. =p And I enjoy somewhat being dragged to car shops for an education on car matters and certain social gatherings where you try to widen my social network and skills.

Despite all that has happened and all that has not happened, strangely enough, you are still my bro and my buddy- movie buddy, sing k buddy and Genting buddy! So, stop being a jerk!! =p

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Kooky Pics #220 Where the money's at

Treasury Casino, Brisbane City.

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Saturday, May 22, 2010

Life and Love

I read the below off someone's blog over HERE and just had to blog about it.

Picture taken from HERE.

If you are going to fall in love with me, it’s only fair that you know what you are falling in love with.

You are falling in love with my insecurities, and my obsession with trying to figure out what everyone thinks of me. You are falling in love with my immaturity, my constant need to feel loved and appreciated, my overactive tear ducts, my tendency to be too clingy. You fall in love with my troubled past, and my hopes and dreams, and how I’m a hopeless romantic at heart. If you fall in love with me, you fall in love with my self-hate and all my imperfections and my perception that nobody could ever love me.

But, you are also falling in love with the way my eyes will smile when I’m with you, the way I’ll text you in the mornings just telling you I hope you have a great day. You’re falling in love with the occasionally humorous and/or thought-provoking things I say, and the way I blush when people ask me about you. But to me, the most important thing will be that you are falling in love with me, despite my thinking that it is impossible.

The above is just sooo sweet and has some sense of truth.

I think in this so-called-modern world where one is deemed conservative and not open if one does not smoke like a chimney nor drink like a fish nor swear like a drunken sailor. But I think sometimes, being a little bit conservative with that child-likeness is alright. We need to preserve what little innocence we have left. That is to say if there is any left.

People are losing their innocence too young and too fast and I am not just talking about popping one's cherry. Children grow up too fast wanting to emulate their idols ie celebrities who take drugs, sleep around, smoke and basically seem to have it all and yet none at all.

Gossips and scandals plague them. Some crave them and some shun them. Majority are so insecure of their looks that they resort to plastic surgery. I mean, looks are one thing but I guess how one looks nowadays trump inner beauty anytime.

Seriously if your guy thinks you have small boobs or think that they are NOT big enough ones and wants you to have some kind of plastic surgery, dump him. Chances are if you don't, he'll always find something about you he doesn't like.

OR if a guy keeps wanting to explore you and take it to a whole new level when you're not ready. Tell him NO and ask him to bugger off if he doesn't pay heed to it. Don't let him do what YOU don't want to do. Cos chances are you'll regret it somewhere along the path between present and into the future. And no one is confirmed a "forever" despite what you think and feel even after you're married. What may feel right at the moment might feel foolish later on which is probably 80% of the time.

And guys, DON'T let a girl use you. EVER. Don't be foolish and don't be blinded by your hopes of winning her heart, you buy the moon and the stars for her. Get the subtle hints and move on. Girls should never use a guys affections and attractions to attain material things. It happens often enough and yet guys are more than happy to accommodate.

I am fortunate to have Mr. Bf- my first and only boyfriend in some ways. He may not be a romantic at heart nor a charmer but he is definitely loving and caring and that should suffice. 10 years of togetherness. 10 years of ups and downs. 10 years of tears, frustrations and drama that were also filled with happy, tender loving moments.

Love isn't just a feeling. It is so much more than that. It is all about making a commitment to that other person, saying "I love you" and putting it into actions even if you don't feel like it. Especially when you don't feel like it.

It's not what you see in the movies. The so-called happy endings and short term happiness which are mostly lust and superficial attractions. I think, relationships are 80% hardships to attain that 20% happiness. What might work for one couple does not necessarily work for another.

Love is accepting the other person irregardless of anything and everything and giving your 100%. Your all.

Kooky Pics # 219 Mixer anyone?

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