Although Mr. C and I have been together for the past ten years despite our differences in religion- him being a Catholic and me, a Protestant- we're now in a dilemma as to what church to settle down. You would think that both Catholic and Protestant falls under Christianity and we really shouldn't have that much issue but there is a slight difference- in the teachings, in the way worship is carried out, small matters that makes us feel awkward in the other's church. Ask any Catholic who has been to a Protestant church and vice versa, they'll tell you the difference that each acutely feels.
I tried his Catholic church when we first got back and I was not used to the musky smell of the pinky church building and how the service was like. Yes, the interior was in pink. He tried a few Protestant church around and felt uncomfortable during the worship as charismatics tend to get really into the worship and start being super intense with the lifting of hands and voices plus the speaking in tongue.
So, we decided for a month, we will try out this church called Citipointe Church nearby at Wecker Road on Sunday morning and then head over to his Catholic Church in the evenings. So far, for the past three weeks, we've managed to go to Citipointe and not his church due to some unforeseen circumstances.
He enjoys the message and that's good. Every time we step into the vast and huge auditorium for the Sunday night 6.30pm service, we feel as if we're in a concert- dim room, flashy, colourful lights and loud music. Mostly, we're surrounded by non-Asians and mainly consists of young people.
However, our one month is almost up and it's time to try another church. I am trying to get him to go for the Chinese service at 10.30a, instead but it really depends on his work timing.
It's tough finding a church because I don't really know exactly what am I looking for besides a church that Mr. C and I, both will feel comfortable in. It's not to say that we are both super religious or anything but I believe when we marry and start our life together, we should start on the right footing with God.
Perhaps it's a little too much to expect that once I step into church, I'd feel that it's the right one. So, I guess, I'll just have to keep trying till we find one and of course, trust God to guide us to the one he means for us to go to.