Suicide and me

I read yesterday morning about this 22 year old guy, Alviss Kong, how he committed suicide over a break up with his girlfriend and the silliest thing ever, he posted his suicide note on Facebook before offing himself!

This news have been spreading around yesterday and many have even blogged about it. If you're interested, JOSHUAONGYS blogged about it, this person and another one and another one, amongst a few. As of last evening, the suicide note apparently seems to be unavailable but you can read about it HERE.

I have been wanting to blog on this issue- suicide for awhile but never got around to it. Last month, someone from my high school apparently committed suicide due to some debt issues. Even celebrities also succumb to this to that as they can no longer stand with the pressures of life especially KOREAN celebrities. Read about it HERE and HERE and HERE.

I know we should respect the dead but just reading that guy's suicide note got me riled up. Yeah sure, I am not here to judge him or his actions but what's the message to others in similar situation? They might think suicide is an option. Besides, there are many who are wishing for a second chance in life but are dying.

SUICIDE 101

#1 NO girl or guy out there is worth dying for. NO MATTER what you think and how you feel. If she or he is worth it, they wouldn't want you to, to begin with.

#2 Suicide is NEVER the way out. Probably seems the EASIEST but definitely not THE way out!

#3 Think about people you leave behind. Yeah sure. You can Rest In Peace where ever you think you're going after death BUT how about those left behind?? Like your parents? Friends? They definitely won't be having any peace any time soon thanks to you who committed suicide for whatever reasons.

#4 No matter what, it's NEVER the end of the world. Of course love is the greatest of all but when you lose a love, when you've been rejected over and over, when you feel life is meaningless, it doesn't mean it's the end of the world. It may feel like it is but it isn't.

Trust me, I know what I am saying. Don't say I don't know what I am saying because up till recently, I was at a dark place myself. Some people who know me who think I am made of bubbly and cheerfulness might not believe it but I learnt to put on a facade, to show the world that all is well when it wasn't. At least, I didn't think so.

Working life sucked. Family life sucked. Study life sucked and so did love. When everything is against you and nothing is going right, when you fail to see any meaning in life. You feel that there is no one you can turn to (even if there is, your brain says otherwise 'cos at that point, nothing matters, and no one does).

All I am trying to say is that SUICIDE IS A NO NO and that's for ANY reasons at all! Even if you've been raped multiple times, abused and subjected to the worst kind of humiliation, it still isn't a reason to end life. Shit happens and that's life. No one says it'll be fair or a breeze but we take whatever we can and learn to deal with it. What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.

We should live life to the very fullest and in the most meaningful manner possible. When one door closes, another one really opens. It's really up to us to see it or not. Of course when you're down and all else is just a pool of darkness, you might not see it.

It's alright to mope and be down. Everyone has their bad moments, their setbacks. But importantly, we learn to pick ourselves, put the pieces back together because life goes on, and so should we.

That's what I did.

If you are at that low point in life and feels that life no longer has any meaning, that you're tired of waking up, tired of facing the world, tired and in despair, you don't choose to be sad and down, you just are and you can't seem to pull yourself out of it, know that you're NOT alone!

Know that there are many people out there with the same sentiments. Some people are probably going through worst crap than you but whatever it is, know that you have people who do love you as you are- your good and your bad. Know that no matter what you think, say(said) or do(done), they still love and accept you and are there for you but you have to reach out and ask for help.

DON'T stay home. DON'T hole yourself up alone. DON'T give in to those dark thoughts, to the voices in your head. DON'T push people away.

Reach out. Tell someone. Even if the voice of "reason" tells you not to. Share with someone that you're hurting. Seek help and it's NEVER too late. It really isn't!